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writes: Hello,This may seem a little graphic--well not graphic but just related to sex and the messiness related to it. lolI go to my b/f's place and usually he is not there unless i am over(he stays with his mom and does things for her at her house etc) But he was there like 2 or three times that week because he is busy working on a few things non-stop. The place does not look neat or anything like that. We are in the bedroom and the bed isn't made and it wasn't made from the last time i was there so thats fine. There are towels on the floor from the previous time i was there. We lay on the bed and eventually we do sleep with one another..I see stains (and you know from what) but i really don't remember it being from us. I mean-it was kind of in the area we slept in just then and i said where did that come from and he said i dunno, its not from me--i'm over here and it must be from u. So- there was a stain to the right of me and then i also saw a stain to the left of him which i don't how how it got there if he is the one laying flat on his back and i couldn't really tell if it was new or old lolHe also brought new sheets that night so he can change them. (they havent been changed in awhile so thats fine)Its kind of disgusting to think of a guy cheating on his girl and then doesn't take the effort to get rid of the sheets before i come over and sleep in the same ones. Am i being paranoid thinking its from someone else? The bed wasn't made, his pj bottoms were still in the bed from the previous week when i was there. Also-this may be a bit disgusting for some but i just want to say everything about the situation--there was an obvious blood stain which i know is from me--so that is what also makes me think it would disgusting of a girl to sleep in that bed with the sheets dirty like that and obvious signs that i was there too.I feel like if i a guy really was cheating--he would change the sheets right away(to get rid of evidence) atleast before i even get to his apartment and not change it after we slept in it so there would no signs of someone else such as the scent from her, hair, or anything. I sat down on the bed too and the bed wasn't made so wouldnt i have noticed the stains before i layed down next to him and before we eventually did more? It wasn't like a little stain or anything that i would have to closely look at the sheets to see. So basically there were stains and i'm unsure if they were just from that moment or if from someone else.Don't know if i am looking too hard into this. Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2006): It sounds as if you're really worried and paranoid. I think that he may have been jerking off and forgot to change the sheets. Also did you know that you could test the sheets at home with a DNA test. You could order these online. Just google infedility testing kit. It gives you the complete instructions. They dont cost alot and I think they're only for $20. NOT expensive at all and come with enough to do alot of testing. They test are accurate. The semen is his, but the test will show if there is any vaginal fluid in the mix and you could test yourself also to make sure that if its yours or not. I hope this helps. Good luck!
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reader, Aunt Ivy +, writes (10 May 2006):
Hi, Personally I don't think that your guy is cheating on you, he probably has been thinking about you and masterbating when you were not there.
I would encourage him to change the sheets more often though! If he has respect for you he should!
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (10 May 2006):
 Listen to be honest looking at the situation I would tell you not to worry, by the sounds of his room when you arrived there has been no other woman in there! I think he would have cleaned up a little, changed the sheets or at least made the bed if he was gonna bring another girl home! You are his girlfriend so a messy room wouldn't be a problem!!! However I am a true believer in trust your gut, it sounds like you might have some trust issues with that guy. You need to think hard about that...is there another reason behind your suspicious feelings?
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reader, Scrummy bum! +, writes (10 May 2006):
 it is possible that he could be cheating but your gonna need more evidence than a few stains. did you ever stop to think that the stains could be from him jerking off? try and find other clues before you start pointing fingers. Like hair, any clothes that arnt yours, if he gets strange phone calls or text messages. your proberly just getting paranoid!! x
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reader, Clarey  +, writes (10 May 2006):
 If I were you I would not worry. If you did leave a patch from your last encounter it has had plenty of time to discolour. I had some friends to stay once and did not get around to changing the sheets for a few days, by which time certain bits had gone orangey brown. Yuk. If you look inside pillow cases to the pillow underneath you can often see staining and this is just from sweat. Yuk again. Unless you have other reasons to be worried I would forget it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2006): Guys jackoff. No matter how much booty you think you are giving up, it probably ain't enough. Boners come at the most random times, and sometimes we just need to release. Nothing personal. Relax. And you are right, if he was cheating he would change the sheets, and most cheaters don't do it in their own home.
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