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writes:Hello everyone. Its me again.Ok, here is a question that probably many girls ask....are these signs my ex could still possibly want me back?.Well me and my bf broke up about 5 months ago. We were together for almost 2 years. We loved each other, but I had some jealousy problems and he was a little bit immature. He initiated the breakup, and I was not very happy about it.Throughout the months we have been broken up, he has given me small tiny tiny signals he may have still liked me. I gave him chances to explain himself and he insisted he didnt want me anymore. After 3 months, he slept with another girl. At the same time he was flirting with me and giving me the same signals, so I confronted him and told him I aint stickin around and letting him use me.Now for the last month of so, he has pretty much stopped contact with that girl, seeing her maybe about once a month with her initiating the meet up. The signals hes giving me now are much stronger than they were before.Heres the things hes now started doing a lot in the last month or so:Texting me all the time asking how I am, or what I am up too.Inviting me out to dinner, or the cinema or the zoo etc.Tellin me he loves me playfully.He stares at me a lot even if I am just sitting somewhere or doing my hair. He always keeps eye contact when im talking and it makes me feel as though hes thinking deeply about something or hes reading me like a book.His hugs are more meaningful. He will hold onto me for ages. Swing me about or pick me up.He has his arm around me on the sofa.Kisses my forehead and cheek.Ok...so Id like to hear some peoples opinions. I know its probably not an easy question to answer, but id also love guys opinions on this, and what it means when you do this to a girl?Thank you xxx
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reader, jojobobo  +, writes (9 September 2008):
Hi,
When I read your question/story, I felt like it was actually me!
My ex was the one who also initiated the break up. I had some jealousy problems as well, and he was also kina immature. We broke up a month ago. I saw him last week. And he was really flirty, or he was acting as though we were still together, tapping my lap as before, touching me, looking at me with the same eyes as he used to when we were together...Then he said we had a personality problem after 2 years of having been together?
Then yesterday he told me he did miss me, and he definitely has feelings for me, but he said it won't work out or it was complicated. How could he know? I mean this is our first break up...Everything that he did (flirting, touching me, still caring about me...telling me about his feelings...) shows that he still loves me...i can feel it. Plus he asked me if I had a boyfriend now, but I don't. He told me that he didn't have a girlfriend..His mind keeps telling him things are complicated...i told him that we can work it out, that nothing is complicated...but then after that, he signed off from msn...then we didn't talk about it, and today we didn't either...so my ex, i think, is like yours...undecided...maybe he is scared of being hurt, since I am his 3rd ex, and he is my 1st ex...
Exes can be so complicated :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): I am not so sure about his intention. I just hope he is not using you.
He is the one initiated the breakup and slept with other girl. If you want him back, you have to be sure that you can truly forgive him.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (28 July 2008):
 It sounds that he still has lingering feelings for you.
You two were together for 2 years, but it's not really easy to forget the whole time you had together in a month. You can't really expect him to have forgotten about you soon, so his interaction around you is more reasonable.
Now, he may have seen that he was wrong about leaving you and his giving you signals that he still wants to be with you so that you don't give your hopes up. He may also be probably warming you up so to see that you still like him so he can take his move.
In the other hand, he may still like you but he may be in denial of his feelings. Or probably he's still hurt after the brake up and tries to tell you he doesn't want you back to either hurt your feelings or so he won't get a heartbrake again. Another thing that may happen is that he may just be giving you false hopes so that way he will hurt you even more, but I kind of doubt this.
Now you got your answer from an unbaised person. I do think he still likes you and may want you back but might not know if he should do it or not, but I do wonder, do you want him back?
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