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writes:Now, I wouldn't normally consider myself the clingy type but now I'm not so sure. Basically me and my boyfriend just got together for about a month and before we got together, we were almost inseparable to the point were everyone else noticed too. Then even after we got together, we got even closer, messaging each other almost 24/7 but we loved it. However, recently when we met up again with a few others, he seemed more distant, and didn't say too much to me at all, it only if I speak to him will I get anything back and usually they're one worded answers not a flowing conversation like we normally would. Now the thing is, we're both shyish people so we're taking this relationship slowly thus we haven't kissed yet which I don't mind to be fair but when all my friends constantly ask "Have you kissed him yet?" then I wonder if I'm being to rigid and that maybe he thinks I'm not interested. For the past week he hasn't spoken to me at all through text (we're not at the same school so teting is our main way of communicating) normally one of us would say "Morning" or "How was school today?" or "Goodnight" at some point but I noticed that now, it's just me doing these however he still does respond. I notices that now on the Whatsapp chat group with our friends, he'll talk loads with them but kinda push my messages to the back when I attempt to speak with him since he always gives responses an hour later per message even though I can clearly see he's been active on whatsapp talking to others. So basically, I wondered, are these signs that he's no longer interested in me? That he's over me? Any advice is helpful :)
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reader, Vianneeey  +, writes (17 September 2014):
I think you overthink this. How will he have the chance to text you first, if you can't even give the chance to text you first?
If you want to know if you do mean something to him, MIA (missing in action). If he doesn't call/text you in 3 days (or maybe a week if he's shy), you have your answer.
And with the kiss, don't let anyone pressure you. Every relationship has its own pace, do it when you feel right. Anything that was built in a rush, will collapse just as fast.
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reader, mscharlie06  +, writes (17 September 2014):
to keep your relationship strong, you need to do the things you did in the beginning of the relationship. this effort needs to come from both sides. maybe its time you asked him what he really wants out of your relationship and if he really wants to stay. you deserve to feel like your half is in this with you and you deserve to feel loved. its in your best interest not to stay in a relationship that does not meet your needs. give him a chance to explain himself. from that point i think you can make a decision. do not feel demotivated if he doesn't seem interested anymore, i dont think that could ever be your fault.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 September 2014):
 I don't think you can call someone boyfriend if you are too shy to kiss each other, or to talk about where this is headed. It could be puppy love and you did things in the summer. I don't know what the arrangement for the summer was, but it must have been easy for you to get together. Now life changes he might not know what to do about it when he got new friends at school. Also to date you he might need transportation, money or parent's permission. Things like that often get in the way in a teenager's dating world. You are still talking. It's just that asking him about the day is more like an open end question and gets nothing accomplished. Be direct and ask him if he can see you on the weekend.
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