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writes:Me and my bf are both 16. We've been going out for 5 months. I'm confused about what he thinks about us 'doing stuff.' He's touched me everywhere but with the exception of a couple of times sticks to the outside of my pants when rubbing me 'down there'. He previously talked about how it was stupid to do stuff at a young age. He was even talking about how stupid his friend was for doing stuff, while his hand was actually rubbing between my legs, is it just me or are these signals very mixed? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's not that I'm pressuring him, he makes all the moves and I told him we needed to take a step back for a bit after his hands ended up in my pants about a month ago
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (11 May 2010):
 He has been warned by someone (perhaps a parent) about the dangers of unprotected sexual intercourse and the consequences of that. He doesn't feel emotionally ready to have that sort of relationship and I think you should respect him for that. Teenage pregnancy and worrying about contraceptive failure is a big old mess that is best avoided. If you like dating your boyfriend just go out, have fun, fumble a bit...wait a while before you do the deed as there is no timeline on this. If you want sex because your girlfriends are having it, take heart, half of them are fibbing due to peer pressure. Don't pressurise him into more than he is ready for because he will resent you for it in the long run. He is showing self-control and maturity in his actions which suggests he is a rare creature indeed for a teenage male - treasure the endangered species!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 May 2010):
 Doing stuff in his mind equates to baby making. I think he means to say "no babies, no STD's and no intercourse yet!" However he sees touching as a no problem thing to do, and probably also thinks kissing is fine, but he won't get naked in bed with you.
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