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writes:I recently, saw lots of forwarded mails to my husband from a woman. He says that she and her husband are his clients. These mails are very inappropriate, sex jokes and all that. He said that he only met her husband and her about three times for business. She sent him a one line mail saying " I haven't heard from you for a while, what's up ? " I replied her mail and ask her to stop. She did not. I even called her up one day, I ask her in a very polite and soft way, why she was doing this, she hung up on me.He keeps saying that it is nothing, but I don't know.Things have changed with us in the bedroom for a few weeks now. We never had a problem before.I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. What do you all think about this. Is he guilty ? Reply to this Question
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reader, elsie  +, writes (17 April 2007):
 sounds like something that started out as flirting mainly from this woman to your husband.the bit i find strange is why if shes innocent she didnt react to your call.i know that if a women rang me sayin what you said to her i would want to know more???her reaction did sound guilty theres not much getting away from that.if you hear any more from her i would ring her again and this time dont be so polite.you dont owe her anything and she isnt respecting your feelings.she must be pretty thick if she cant figure out,after your call,why your husband hasnt been in touch.meanwhile get the email addresses etc changed too.that way if she contacts him then obviously hes given her the new info.good luck.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (4 April 2007):
 People forward emails/jokes all the time. The fact that you find the jokes to be unfunny doesnt'mean anything. The fact that she hasn't heard from him in a while, means what? It means whatever you twist it into. Emails are deceiving. You can read things into them that are wrong.
I know other agony aunts from this web site, who I've never met. I've messaged them in private also. Is that wrong? IF one of their partners saw the message, would it mean they were cheating? Not at all. Perhaps you're a little paranoid for some reason. Are these jokes forwarded to others too or just your husband?
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (4 April 2007):
 Hi,
I think its a good sign, that she says in her email she hadnt heard from him for a while.
But never the less, she is definatly flirting with hiim. It could be that he feels guilty about the emails, and of course that would effect him in the bedroom. If he starts to act very strange and sets alarm bells ringing, I would say he is up to something. But for now give him the bennifit of the doubt.
Maybe he doesn't want to know her anyway, and she is the one doing all the running. He could be totally innocent.
If this woman refuses to leave him alone, call her up and tell her you will call her husband. Maybe she will stop then. If that fails ask your husband to tell her to not email or call him.
Just remember you are his wife, he should care about you more than anyone else in the world, and be very willing to prove it. If he starts to get angry and defensive over you asking nicely why this woman is calling, or dissapears for hours, then i would start to worry.
Really its very easy to find out if someone is cheating, the trouble is, as i know myself, It can be slapping you in the face and you wont want to believe it anyway.
But as i said before, I think she is just flirting. Dont stand for it, and stick up for yourself. He is your husband.
Good luck XXX
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