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writes:I began working with this man several months ago. We clicked immediatly, had lunch, breaks, shared personal info about each other, made each other laugh, serioulsy laugh. All of the body language of interest is there. Anyway you get the point. Neither of us ever asked about our home lives. I assumed he was attached and when he shared that he was i shared with him i was single. His actual words were "What your not married" with the look of shock and tone. Actually he almost chocked on his lunch. Anyway since this was work I never had any intention of crossing that line i figured whats the harm of a little flirting and i now i am seriously attracked to him mentally, physically, and morally. Well his schedule has changed and now we only see each other for like an hour a day. But now we seem to have alot of tension between us. We seem to pick at each other and not fight but bicker lightly. He has lightly poked me in the side to see if i would jump i guess. I have stayed away from dating for several years due to my last relationship. Maybe I'm dilusional but I'm getting the feeling there is more to us then i see. Am i misreading his signals. I do understand that his is involved with someone, but not living with or engaged just involved. So does anyone have an opinion. Is he as interested in me as i am in him. Or am i just imagining it. Thanks for your time. Peace out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice and i understand exactly what you are saying. I had condensed the situation he actually has been in his relationship for over 2 years. I know that he has no intention of cheating and i wouldn't respect him if he did. But there is problems in their relationship. I have found this out by indirect sources and he isn't fully content. Actually i know that they have had some serious problems. My question was more if he was actually interested or was it my imagination. My last relationship was very damaging (very abusive) to put it mildly and I don't trust my judgement anymore. I have always had men as best friends so to me i cant' tell if he is actually interested in me or just being a guy. Its just that he is the first man i have truly feel connected with in 5 years. We just get each other if that makes any sense. and the chemistry between us is seriously intense. Should i tell him. I don't want to make an ass of myself or screw up a friendship. I would rather care for someone in silence then loose them all together. So i'm at a loss i give great advice to my friends but i can't seem to help myself. Oh ya and he seems a little jealous about other men and me. Which i don't get at all. I guess i'm just oblivious when things are about me.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (4 April 2007):
 If he's not in a serious relationship then he has the choice to end his current relationship with very little problem. I would think if he was deadset on being with you he would already have done that. Don't do anything with him until he finishes with his current girlfriend, even if he promises to break up with her that day. Maybe he's a great guy but maybe he just wants to use you then go back to his girlfriend so be careful.
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