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writes: I got into an argument with a group of friends and one particularly hot headed male sent me a facebook msg saying this:"You are a crazy c*nt. Good luck bcuz your world is coming down real soon, you pennsylvania retard."My reply: "its really trashy to threaten a girl. Its funny though."Him: "no threat from me, just a small warning from the group of us as a whole."He also commented on his friend's facebook status "b*tch is crazy and all I gotta say is, its not gonna end well for her."That last one is harder to prove because it wasn't addressed to me directly, but the status was about me and can be proved reasonably because my nickname is used in the status.Are these threats?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the advice everyone! I just wanted a fresh perspective, because when you're too close to the situation, it is often distorted. I'm glad I wasn't reading too much into it or just reacting fearfully out of instinct (I'm a female who lives alone, and there's like 6 or 7 of them mad at me--mostly guys, including the gentleman who wrote those statements.)
As for the suggestion about asking them about the threats, I basically called to his attention, as well as his mother's attention, that I considered the statements to be threatening. The guy and his girlfriend wrote back (separately, two different messages,) trying to back peddle. The guy said: "The authorities have seen everything I wrote you and I'm as safe as can be, nothing I said poses a physical threat to you or anyone else." and his girlfriend said: "I don't know what you think you have about ****** and threatening messages but he never threatened you, he was just saying.." and then she went on to attempt to clarify his stance. This to me seems like nothing more than trying to take something back once you realize it could get you in trouble. In the original messages, he did not explicate the threats in any way, nor did he until I called him out on it to himself and his mother. So I sort of doubt this is the truth.
That being said, I don't know what to do. I still haven't decided if I should go to the police or not.
Here's a short back story: I dated this guy's friend. The firend wrote a nasty facebook status about me, and a bunch of his friends commented with really nasty statements, and one even used my name, which really upset me. So I became defensive and sent a few of them facebook messages that weren't so nice, but nothing threatening. So now it's a big mess, but I still don't feel as though it is appropriate to threaten someone during an argument, and I am nervous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): Well first off, yes save them/print them whatever. Secondly, for a second, try and be civil (mostly it seems on their part) and seriously ask this guy if the threats are serious or they are just talking themselves up. Because honestly, people say a ton of things on the internet that they wouldnt in real life. I know they think youre crazy and I know you probably hate them but before you give this to the police, make sure they were being serious because then its making a mountain out of a molehill. Try and take the high road and put it to rest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): Hi
Yes they are threats....and you should report this....say nothing else on face book and be watchfull.....
spunky monkey.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (28 January 2011):
 If you're that concerned that you're going to receive a beating from this group, or maybe that they have a hit out on you then I would notify the authorities.
By the way how did this argument start?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 January 2011):
Get copies of those, because they are threats. Print the page.
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