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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Are there any house proud men out there? My boyfriend keeps his house tidy but it's definitely not as clean as I think it should be. For example the oven and microwave have NEVER been cleaned apart from a quick wipe down so they are thick with grease and grime. The shower is horrible too and there is mould growing around the edge of the bath because he never bothers to clean it. It's so horrible that I refuse to shower there. I've told him gently that's why but he thinks it's funny and that I'm overreacting. I spoke to my two sisters about this and they said that all men are like that and that's why cleaning still mainly lies with the woman. I thought that was a bit outdated but am wondering if that's right? The idea of moving in with him and having to clean up this mess (particularly as it's things that can be kept on top of with regular maintenance) is really putting me off. Don't get me wrong he does Hoover and keep things tidy, it's the 'proper' cleaning that's missing.Are my sisters right? Or are there men out there who like to keep their houses looking good? And are you willing to spend money on home things too? My boyfriend spent £2000 on a new guitar but won't buy a new set of pans despite only having one left! I don't want all of that stuff to come out of my money if we get to that stage.In case you are wondering, we've been together a couple of years now but he only got his own place about 6 months ago. He's now brought up the topic of ms moving in. Thanks in advance!
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reader, M Proops +, writes (7 December 2013):
Well I've always been houseproud,anything to do with hygiene and eating particularly.My wife is untidy but not dirty.I keep the house clean and do the dishes,i won't let her do it.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 December 2013):
 I think a LOT of guys your age have NO idea how to clean. They know the basics about picking up so the house doesn't look like a total dump, but many parents (mom's especially) don't teach they SONS to clean.
I would NOT move in until you two have sat down and talked chores, budget, bills. I would also talk about what you two NEED in the household such as pot & pans, vacuum, broom, whatnots. And either YOU buy pots and pans and they are YOURS, he buys some (his) or you two share the cost.
I'm not surprised he only has one pan left either. I dated a guy who was notorious for burning anything (even water ) and ruining pots and pans (not mine thank goodness lol)
Out of 4 men I have dated, only my first BF kept a spic and span apartment. My husband can clean but he doesn't really do it unless asked.
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