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writes:has anyone ever taken back a person who has cheated on them, and things had ended up good and happy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): if you can forgive and you want to try again, you do what you thinks right, i have never forgot when my husand cheated hes even got a baby by them same age as mine, it was over 11 years ago. if your head and heart think and feel the same go for it. if both think different give yourself time out to think, good luck you have only one life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2007): Its ok to say love conquers all,but in reality being cheated on and betrayed has destroyed trust. Things are never the same as they was. You then have to ask yourself how much this person cares about you? If you truly love someone,then why cheat?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): I was cheated on more than once. I feel you can forgive once and forget but more than once is very difficult. I find myself checking up on him - i feel like a detective! I also knew the girls that he cheated on me with so that makes it harder. If you feel its worth it i think it is possible to forgive one mistake, but if it happens again id say don't.
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reader, Jenny03  +, writes (15 February 2007):
MY boyfriend had a one night stand when he was drunk in the back of my car and i court him at it. he was so upset that it happened he dont remember it. he lived at his mums for a long time and we started again and the upset went away and we are now happy and i get everything i want including a new car!! Every one deserves an other chance, people make merstakes just make him suffer first!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): It's hard ,but i am firm believer in you can forgive if you truley love someone,but,you will never forget about it.
My husband cheated on me the frst time 8 years into the marriage i caught him i was devastated,but 2 young boys,took me awhile i forgave him,things were a little diffrent not as much trust and certainly ,every time he disappeared for more then a hour ,it will be the first thing you think about.
Second time he cheated,13 years in ,i wasn't quite as shocked about it,almost expected it some,considering i wasnt feeling as close as i was to him after the first go about,but still my oldest boy at 15,was so so upset he over heard us arguing,i forgave again.But, i will say ,never forgot now twice it is a hard thing to swallow ,the trust is no where to be had almost for a long time.
Third time was the straw for me 16 years into it,but i have to say i was going thru a weird spot myself ,fealt i needed to get away from it all,the kids the whole pressure thing,i left for 2 weeks,come back to find out he has hooked up again while i was gone.I moved out the boys were old enough now.
But...I still forgave him,we are seperated still to this day,but we also remain very good friends,we eat together some nights,daily conversations,do house projects together,JUST NO SEXUAL CONTACT AT ALL,for 3 years now,but this is me,and i am a caring ,forgiving,very pataint person.
so 19 years of marriage,he cheated 3 times,i forgave each time,the hardest thing of it all is,when you have known someone your whole life(married at 18)met him when i was 15,how can you just boot someone totally from your life,when they been your friend all them years.
So i am happy today,still think he is my best friend in the world.As i say you can forgive but you will never forget,and any little thing he does wrong it all rushes right back to the front of the mind.So you have to be prepared to deal with it.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (15 February 2007):
 My friend's husband cheated on her and after a quareling and crisis period she forgave him as she considered she works too much to earn money for the family and tried to slow down her working rythm a bit, she also considered that divorced would en up in him getting the baby and a hugh divorce pension from her and she also knows he really treats the baby wonderful so she decided for another go and it works thoug I have to say he also had a go with a colleague from work after her husband's cheating and they are now hapilly together, better than before I would say and it's good for the baby so far though everyone has to consider their own situation and feelings I recommended her not to take a decission to fast and I didnt approve of ther go with another man it helped to make up her mind and forgive as a go is a go but a long lasting good family relation with somebody u love is very important
good luck and don not hurry up think it over
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (15 February 2007):
 I took my husband back after he cheated, but i could not get it all out of my mind. We argued constantly, as I believed he was still lying, and still seeing the girl he went off with. As it turned out I was right, and it ended a few weeks later rather nastily (for him).
I am glad I did it though, as I think it made me feel a lot stronger towards him. And at least I could say I tried.
My mum however, took back my dad after she thought he had cheated on her.(this happened before I was born). And they are still together nearly 50 years later. But my Mum has never let the poor bugger forget it.
Maybe they were more forgiving in those days, im not sure.
Hope this will help you.
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reader, cseame +, writes (15 February 2007):
 yes sometimes it has when the person doesn't cheat ever again and there is trust in the relationship
my sister took back a guy that cheated on her and now there still together and happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): Well, I think I will answer your question by sharing my experience with you. I once fell in love with this girl. I wasnt interested in dating her in the beginning(my instincts told me she was wrong for me) but as time went on, I finally begun to like her. Everything went well untill she started spending less time with me. I soon realised she was avoiding me. I couldnt pin point what had gone wrong, until some guy called me telling me she was dating him too & she was spending nights & sleeping with him. To cut the long story short, we broke up. A year later, she's back tellig me how much she regrets wat happened. She cries wen I tell that it wont work. She says her & I were meant to be. I have met someone far much better & successful. Truth is, I'm doing very well as compared to last time, am now got a good job & promicing career.
My opinion, it is hard to trust some one that hurts you so bad... I dont know if this will help but I would say, if you feel you can love, trust & want to give it another try, but just be careful & keep your eyes open. Good luck.
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