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writes: Pressure to be nice to others to gain a sense of acceptance gets on to my mind and i become impulsive and take some steps that may not be justified, like quitting a job, disowning a family member / friend etc.It's like relationships are all about being nice to others, no matter what you think about them or how crappy or nasty they may be.. I consider it as a kind of bullying subjected on to my family members who are least confident of their own strengths.. Please advice.. Reply to this Question
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (13 June 2007):
If someone expects you to treat your family or other friends badly, or compromise your career for them, then they aren’t your friend. Relationships do involve taking some flak in the bad times, but this should not be the norm. Relationships are a 2 way thing. Your friend or partner, or whoever you are talking about should be supportive and thoughtful about your needs as well. If it’s all give and no take for you, then you need to make changes in the relationship or leave it. To stay will not be good for you or them.
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