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writes:Are other couples simply not having sex either!?Me and my bf of 3 years have sex very very infrequently. I would have it every day, but hes less inclined to and is more practical about everyday things. Its not his sex drive, hes got a relatively high one when he wants to have, he simply says that there is more to life than a sex life. Whilst i know this is true, i also want a sex life. We are in our thirties and it seems that the longer we go without sex the worse i get. Of course we love each other and are intimate, cuddle all the time and do alot for one another, its just sex never happens! or if it does its like once a month! We are totally head over hills in love still, and in all other senses we are perfectly matched. When I mention sex to him hes like what does it matter ? Why are you making an issue out of something... he doesnt see it as an issue and is more than happy just to love me. But it tends to make me want sex because hes not bothered about it! Drives me insane, its almost like hes lazy and when we do have sex its getting to the point that its just to stop me mentioning it! So is it just us that this is happening to ? Do other couples only have sex about once a month ? Are we normal ? What can I do to make it happen more often without him feeling pressured ? can a relationship really last if the sex is as infrequent as this ?Any advice would be great!Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): My b.f. is 32 & I am 26. We've been together a yr. but friends for 7 yrs. We have sex every night, some times 3 times a day on weekend days. You say he has a high sex drive, but if he did he'd want sex more. have you gained weight or anything, as a reason maybe he would be less attracted to you now? My ex boyfriend & I were together for 5 yrs. & towards the last 2 yrs. I just hated the idea of having sex with him. He grossed me out, but I also hated him & didn't know it. If you're really in love, I'd say he either has a low sex drive, is gay, or isn't as attracted to you anymore. Once a month is not normal at your age & being together for 3 yrs. I'm sorry to say it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): iv been with my botfriend just under 2 yrs and its gone from every night we see each other to twice a week, sometimes that twice is once. i know how u feel, every night i go to bed hoping we'll have sex and start kissing and cuddling but as soon as i move my hand downwards its "night sweeetie" a kiss and turns over. there is more to life and its not worth leaving over but its really bloody annoying! plus as my bf is also in his 30s (im in my 20s) its only going to get worst, his sex drive will continue to diminish and ur in ur sexual prime. get a good vibrator.
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