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writes:Okay, i apologize that this may be kinda long. Okay, so i have two best friends, lets call them...Paige and Mary (:/). My friend paige has a boyfriend which shes had for 3 or 4 monthes and is very "touchy" with. i dont think shes THAT into him anymore but is still just staying with him. Paige has a rumored-reputation of being lez or bi by most of the people in my grade. Last year i had seen paige and mary holding hands like a couple walking down the hallway a few times, and found myself thinking the rumor was true. and still do a year later. Paige and mary are very touchy and close. they go over to each others house all the time and became the best of friends out of the blue. they even seem tobe better friends then they are with their friends from childhood. okay, so my question is, how do i find out whats going on between them. i know they'd lie about it and get mad at me if i asked them, so its kinda a rock in a hard place. another question is how can i prove paige is lez or bi? angain if i asked her shed just lie and get mad at me. so ya, if anyone has any advice, please let me know!!!xxxxxps i may be totally wrong and nnothing may be going on, but o well...
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reader, mossy  +, writes (18 July 2009):
hiyah im new to this,
i spotted your question and taught it was good.
i dont think you sould worry too much.
leave them be. people can be best of friends extremly quick. they could have just noticed how alike they really are and got on great. they prob know about this rumour and messing with peoples heads because they dont really give a crap what people think. however if they are bi or gay its very hard to tel people because they dont know how they would react. if they are support them dont feel uncomfortable regardless if bi or lesbian.remember they are still your friends.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (8 February 2008):
 Look, no matter how curious you are or what your motives are, if you press the issue it just makes you look like you're just being nosy. The point is you are not supposed to know untill they tell you. If they ever do. If you here other people talking about them or asking you about it, then all you say is they haven't said anything to you and all you know is they are friends. You cant control what people think about other people.But if it bothers you that people are talking about your friends then tell those two girls that you just dont like when people talk bad about them to you and that you have their backs no matter what. That's all.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (6 February 2008):
 "Your also are wondering y i care. well, wouldnt you want to know if your friends were bi, but just werent ready to tell you? not all people come out when they are askd."Curious. yes.Snoop around behind their backs to find out? no.If they arn't ready to come out or talk about it. then leave them be. what right do you have to force a confession out of them?if they Truely are your freinds. then stop sneeking around helping to spread the rumore and be a friend and stop being so nosey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay, well im the person who wrote this. most of my answers have been that i am against gay or bi people and that i am trying to out my friends, and thats not the case at all. i am not against gay or bi people and would not care if my friends are, if they are, i would support them not out them. i am just trying not to make anyone feel wierd about it(its middle school, they'll take it wierdno matter how "trustworthy" you are) . Your also are wondering y i care. well, wouldnt you want to know if your friends were bi, but just werent ready to tell you? not all people come out when they are askd. so ya. mabey i didnt word the ? right...idk this is the first qustion ive ever posted, so when i think of a better, nicer way to put it, i will post it again. PS-I DID NOT START THIS RUMOR AND I AM NOT TELLING PEOPLE IT IS TRUE!!!(for those of you thinking it was me)
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reader, ILCL13 +, writes (5 February 2008):
Hey first of all what I would like to say is that I am against being gay kinda, but there is nothing wrong with being bi. Girls know what other girls like better then most guys do and it also turns the guys on. Well if you think paige would get mad at you then you should ask mary or whatever, and just act like you like bi people I mean it doesnt sound like you do, but anyways thats all I have to say. If she was that good of a friend to you then she would just be honest
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (5 February 2008):
Yea, it seems like you are trying to out them if it is true and thats not cool. I dont know your reason for wanting to know, but basically if one or both is your friend then just leave them be. If they want to tell you they will. There may not be anything to tell. It might be that they enjoy screwing with peoples heads and just became really good best friends. Basically, dont worry about it.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (5 February 2008):
 why do you care? I mean are you going to go round school telling everyone their gay? Just leave them alone, they obviously don't trust you and I don't blame them.
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