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writes:My girlfriend works out of our city and state most of the time. When she travels, she usually goes out with one of her co-workers, a guy her age who is single. I have noticed that there is genuine affection between them and this guy even kissed her on the cheek in front of me when he told her goodnight while we were all out one night. Obviously there is emotional interest between the two. Will they, Are they or have they SLEPT together??
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reader, eddie  +, writes (25 August 2007):
 Be careful what you "notice". Sometimes we notice what suits our ideas and build a case around it. Does your girlfriend ever receive a kiss on the cheek from other people? If so, what is the difference?
The difference here is you don't like the idea of her traveling with the other guy. You don't know that there is genuine affection or emotional interest between them. What exactly is emotional interest? That sounds like something that is an accusation more than an observation.
Will they, are they or have they slept together? Maybe, maybe and maybe. Will she win the lottery? Maybe If she hasn't slept with this guy, might she with the next one? Maybe. Would she enjoy it? Maybe. Would she feel guilty? Maybe. Will you live a long life? Maybe.
You can not control people. What would be your solution to this issue? Would you forbid her from working? Would yo forbid her from traveling for work? If this was the reverse and you had to travel, would you refuse because she made accusations that you'd cheat. You wouldn't because in your mind, you'd be in control of the situation and you'd reassure her she had nothing to worry about. The issue is that you know how men think and are concerned that he might weaken her. All you can do is make your presence felt and understood. Talk to her and tell her your worries. Do not accuse her though, just kind of say it with your head down.
All you can do is be the best man possible. Don't give her reasons to want another guy. Be happy, encouraging and promote her happiness. The stronger your relationship, the less likely she'll wander. This does not make you a fool. It makes you a good partner. The fool is the person who jeopardizes a relationship with a good partner by cheating. You can never be guilty of doing the right thing. If someone chooses to ruin that, it's their fault.
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