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writes: Will this Long Distance relationship work?I have been dating my boyfriend who lives 2 hrs drive away for a year now. We talk on the phone every night and spend every weekends together. We are getting along really well, and already are thinking about future plans with me. I love him alot, and I know he will take good care of me in the future. Recently, he has decided to go to Europe for 6 months. He wanted to expand his horizon (he will go back to visit his homeland) and also figure out what he really should do as his career. This is something I really respect and support him to do. He originally wanted to go 7 years ago, but didn't because of responsibility of his new born daughter. Now he's divorced and his daughter is old enough, he feels it's time for him to go to Europe. 6 months is quite a long time. My girlfriends keep saying I really shouldn't be with this guy since this is a selfish act. He is leaving me here for 6 months where he's going to have fun. I think it's silly to think like that. I am not worry he will not love me when he comes back. Indeed, he is more worry about me finding other guy to replace him (but he trust that I won't). So guys and girls out there, do you think my girlfriends are/might be right about this long distance relationship?
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reader, Tine  +, writes (1 September 2006):
 truthfully i dont think that you friends are right. Long distance relationships do work sometimes but it is up to both of the people involved to put the time and effort in to make it work. Your boyfriend is right in trying to find out what career shoul dbe because at the end of the day he will eventually have to provide for you and do you not think that its right that he finds something that wil guarantee a great future for you both?? Keep talking to each other on the fone and meeting up at weekends and when he goes away for 6 months how about going out to visit him for a couple of weeks, think of it as a holiday. This way you wil see more of each other and keep the romance alive
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (1 September 2006):
 I think your friends are just looking out for you but maybe the green eyed monster is sneaking in a bit there! You obviously trust this guy a lot and care for him, as you don't want him to miss out on anything, and he cares for you too so why cause problems that aren't there?
I wouldn't like my partner to leave me alone for 6 months but if it's something he really wanted to do, I wouldn't stand in his way, he'll only resent you in the end.
You sound like you have a great thing going, you don't have to be in each others' pockets all the time to be in a good relationship. In fact, space is good! You're both used to not seeing each other all the time, as you live apart so this won't be as hard as it maybe for others.
Let him do his thing and you do yours, you love him enough not to stand in his way. Ignore your friends, they're not in the relationship and can't control you. Good luck
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