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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi this is a difficult one and maybe a bit of a long story I’ve just met a guy in sixth form been mates with him a few months, he’s gay I do have lots of gay friends, so initially where just friends all the way we are very similar to each other, and we both prefer to go for lunch alone we have very shared interests, shopping art and hair and make up LolWhen we are together he just wants it to be the two of us, because I have to tell him to wait for other people in our class, and I can tell because where so close I haven’t let a friend get this close in years, not since I was 15 and she was my best friend but it ended badly.The problem with all this is when I hang out with my other friends I’m never as happy as when I’m with him and I know he feels the same way, the problem is its worrying me should I feel this way over a friend? And should he feel this way over me? His face lights up when where together, we hold hands, I’ve even slept in the same bed with him after a drunken night out (cuddling), and he initiated most of this. I dont even think about other guys anymore because I have him to be my friend so I feel a strange fulfilment and like I couldn’t care less about having someone, and that’s worrying really because my ex BF of four years is in Harrogate in Uni. and I don’t miss him or want a new fella. He has a boyfriend in Australia, and he is definitely gay, and I’m surportive with it not jealous at all (and if I was I would say I mean Ive posted this anonymously)And I’m always happy to give him love advice, so I’m just confused I mean I know I love my gay friend as a friend but who thinks theirs more to our feelings? and if there was I wouldn’t want him to be gay or have a boyfriend would I? And I don’t mind at all being gay is who he is and I adore him for him.If I do love him should I back off? I’m tempted to do so where too close for comfort at times, and the time we spend together is too good, Im just so confused.
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reader, AnnaW219 +, writes (18 November 2007):
 he may be gay but he may have the same feelings have you ever thought about asking him he is oviously a realy close friend so he won't freak out i bet loads of girls like him or maybe its just because your a really close friend and your just dont want any love from guys since you split with your ex but you dont realise this if you want more advice just ask
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