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Are my fears reasonable? I don't want to sabotage the relationship, nor invest emotion and time if he doesn't want what I want.

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Question - (29 August 2016) 2 Answers - (Newest, 29 August 2016)
A female United States age 30-35, *eh2014 writes:

I met a guy online, we text back and forth everyday, though sometimes it takes hours for him to text back, most of the time he apologizes other times he answers as though nothing happened. We have video chatted quite a few times and each session lasts a couple hours.

The problem w/that is he suggests we vid chat, then he forgets completely until I ask him (he is pretty much always open to vid chat). He never rushes me off vid chat and even chatted w/me 2x in one day because his friends came by. In the past guys acted interested, then laid off completely. Personally would this concern you?

I suggested visiting him, but since the ticket is expensive for the day we set, I'm now going to wait for him to mention it again.

During one of our early convos he mentioned having free tickets to an amusement park that he works at and finding cheap tickets to visit me. I really like him and we can talk on vid chat for hours on end.

I just don't want to invest emotion/time in a guy far away who doesn't want what I want.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (29 August 2016):

N91 agony auntHow far is the distance ?

How much time will you guys actually be able to spend together if you become official ? Doesn't sound like a great deal if it's a plane journey away. You need to be realistic.

If you think you're wasting your time then you need to ask him where the situation is going, that's the only way you're going to know whether you actually are or not.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (29 August 2016):

Honeypie agony auntIs it realistic that you two can HAVE a relationship? He lives far away, plane tickets are expensive...

So if you two decide to BE a couple... how much time you do really think you will spend in each other's company ? (and I'm talking about IN person).

How long do you think you can keep up a relationship that is based on texts and vid-calls? Seriously?

I think as LOVELY as he is, this will run out in the sand. Having an LDR and maintaining it is HARD work and can be expensive.

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