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writes:Hi there,I have a question about dreams. In particular, dreams of a sexual or intimate nature. Whenever I have a dream of this kind, I find that something always happens to interrupt or stop the 'action' before anything happens. This could be anything from making out to more serious acts. Every time, there will either be an interruption from some third party or something silly like suddenly stopping and talking about a completely unrelated subject. I'm not worried about not getting any action in my dreams, I would just like some idea as to why my mind is incapable of 'doing' anything in its fantasy world. Some background: I'm single and have been for a while, but am not a virgin nor have I never been with a woman. Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 October 2011):
 Oh yes, as Tisha said, this doesn't have to be about sex at all. Sex in dreams is very rarely about actual real life sex. What it means depends on what sex means to you. Is it a release, and escape, pleasure, is it something you connect with presentation anxiety, intimacy, other people getting close to you etc? Do you know the person you have sex with, is it someone you know (hints at a strained relationship with that person) or someone you do not know? Everything can be taken into consideration.
But ultimately what I mean by being scared is that you are about to do something (what depends on what sex means to you) but you are afraid to do it, so you stop yourself. You might think in the dream that this is what you want, but you are conflicted, perhaps this truly isn't what you want, or you are scared of what will happen when you do do it.
Face your fears and the dreams will go away. If a dream repeats itself it is because you have an unresolved issue.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 October 2011):
 "To dream that you do not achieve orgasm, signifies some frustration in your life. Something is leaving you unfulfilled and unsatisfied. Note that the frustration may not necessarily be sexually related."
I stole that from a site that came up on Google search: http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamthemes/sex.htm
It may have nothing to do with sex but could signify that you are being thwarted or frustrated by something in your life and your dreams are expressing that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2011): OP here. chigirl, I think you've misread what I wrote. I'm not gay, and I was trying to say that I am both not a virgin and I have in fact dated women before. Sorry for the confusing double negative. I don't think I have a fear of intimacy, but I suppose that's something to think about.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (20 October 2011):
How can you not be a virgin yet never have been with a woman? Are you hinting at being gay? Or what's the story?
Anyway, the reason your dreams prevent you from continuing is because you are scared to do so. Your subconsciousness only reflects your consciousness after all. It stops because your mind doesn't want you to go there, the most common reason being fear of doing so.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 October 2011):
 Your mind is blocking out finishing your sexual fantasies probably because it is on your mind to begin with. The first ever dream you had about it something obviously stopped you and then it has been playing on your mind making you wonder why. Then when you are asleep your mind is set to this and something keeps blocking it in your dream. It could be possible because you have nobody to share a physical relationship with at the moment, therefore you are stopping yourself from going to far. Don't worry about it.
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