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writes:I've been having dreams this past week about a girl I like; all which has been consecutive. She is one of my good friends who lives down the hall in the dorms. In the dreams, we are usually just hanging out doing whatever. Over each dream I have, we have become closer together as if love has just sparked. My feelings for her seem so vivid that these feelings for her seem stronger in reality. I almost feel as if I should be close with her, but I know it only happened in my dreams. I just feel at a loss because I want to be around her much more often now. I know the difference between what happened in the dream and what the reality is, but should I trust these feelings I have for her? I really do like these dreams I have, but I'm worried if this is just doing more harm to me than good. I just wish it was real.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): Thanks everyone. You've given me a different perspective I didn't see before which makes me feel at ease. Nonetheless, I do still like this girl, and I'll work this thing out slowly. Last thing I want to do is lose a good friend. :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 I think you are dreaming of this happening with her because you want that type for relationship. Your dreams are telling you of your desires and wishes right now, and you wish for this relationship. I think the dream is just using this girl as an example though, unfortunately. She is a girl you know, but you don't know that much about her do you? At least it comes off that way, she is just a girl you sort of like, and your dreams are using her because she is a good example of a typical girl who you could imagine having a relationship with.
So don't be depressed if it doesn't work out between you and her. Your dream is about the type of relationship you want right now, not a prophesy about you and this girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): I have to agree with CindyCares, because I dream alot and some of them really seem to focus in on certain people, places, etc., and sometimes reoccuring. I feel it is healthy to dream, in a biological and healing sense, while the body repairs and works hard while seemingly at rest. At the same time, while our subconscience works to entertain us while healing and repairing physically, I believe dreams are our body's way of healing us spiritually and boosting our positive energy by influencing us in our general ways of life while we are awake each day. This can be easily misinterpreted by dreams such as someone appearing in a dream, and then seeing them the next day, after not seeing them for months. I have found that dreams are very powerful, if you remember them and take the feeling from them, and translate it in life to guide you in a certain direction. I can't explain it, but if you try to take something out of each dream you remember, without reading too much into it, you'll notice it can guide you...how, I don't know.. I do believe that our subconsciences take stored previous events and use those events, people included, to steer us in a positive direction, if we act on the dream in a positive way. As out there as it seems, all I can gather as an answer is that our dreams are an extension of our healing and repairing that occurs in our bodies while we sleep. I believe it's our bodies' way of healing and repairing our lives around it. Try to act on the general actions your dreams influence you to follow, rather than specific people, and you'll be surprised how powerful a dream can really be.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 The language of dreams is a symbolic ,not a literal one.
If you dream you are in love with Mary, it may not literally mean that you are in love with Mary. It may mean that your emotional needs are not currently being met, that you feel a need for affection and closeness, that you are ready to fall in love.but not necessarily with Mary.
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