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writes:Hi, you know women are meant to be the masters of reading body language and emotions, etc? I have to say, I've never once been wrong about who is and who isn't interested in me. I'm pretty good at sussing people out. But what I want to know is, are men any good at it? Because a lot of the guys I know say they're all rubbish at reading women, and I've seen them trying to pull and they're right. But a few times I've developed huge crushes on men I've never ever spoken to, and to me they appear to be just as interested. One time I had a thing for over a year for one guy, who I didn't know, and we ended up talking online and then sleeping together. And there's a few more guys like this. They are always catching my eye before looking away and sort of gravitating towards me on nights out. I don't know if A, I'm totally wrong, B, they fancy me but don't realise the feeling's mutual, or C, we both know we like each other? It feels a lot like C, but am I just wishful thinking or is it possible that they're reading me too?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Ah, I see. Well the easy way then is that most guys are interested in anyone who is willing. So women get a fairly easy job when it comes to reading that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone!
Chigirl - Oh I know they probably are only interested in me sexually, but so am I! I don't want a relationship.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (27 September 2010):
Oh you are just wishing it. Men are horrible at reading women. Think of it this way, about that guy you liked for a year who ended up sleeping with you. This is a classic. You think the guy liked you? Then why on earth did it take him a year before he bothered? And why didn't he want a relationship, but just sex?
The sad truth is that he still has no idea you liked him. For that whole year he was going out at clubs trying to get laid, and probably got some too. Then one night he happened to come across you, and you were willing, so he thought "yay, I will get laid!". And sadly that is all there is to it. Your feelings were not relevant. Guys don't sleep with women that care about them only. They sleep with anyone who are willing. In general. Some do have self respect though.
There are a rare few who understand the game of flirting, but typically this game for a man is designed to get sex, not relationships.... Unfortunately. Guys who like you will be gentlemen and not push for sex, but get to know you and want to actually hang out and be around you and with you. Not just jump in the sack. I think you are probably good at reading who is interested in you, but it sounds like you still need some experience in reading a mans true intentions.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Some men are, some men aren't. In my experience most aren't, though it seems to mostly be due to not having to do it all the time growing up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): In general, no. Men are terrible. Awful. But when a girl is really, really into them, generally they can tell. Anything below that, not so much.
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