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writes:I am in a long distance relationship, I live in the UK and my boyfriend lives in Ireland. We're both 17 and met and fell in love just over 2 years ago, and we get to see each other usually 4 times a year.We'd figured out how he would visit me this time because our October holidays were different and we were very much looking forward to it. But his parents have decided he can't come because his grades aren't good enough. I could deal with this and wouldn't be here asking if it weren't for a few additional details..1. He is 17, very close to being a legal adult, he was going over with his money he earned and during his holidays.2. His grades for most of his subjects are around 70%. There was just one maths test he failed because he was off the day before and didn't know to revise. That's not what I call bad grades at all... they told his dad at the parents evening that he was doing well. His mum wasn't there but she was told how 'terribly' he was doing when he got home.3. They have been strict on him this year, making him do 3 hours of homework and study after school every night and insisting he leaves at 11 and making him go to study school on Sundays (which I found Ironic since he's at a catholic school). And he has gone along with it all even though it meant we didn't get very much time to talk on the phone and msn.4. Speaking of msn, they've told him he's not allowed on the computer until the Christmas holidays. This means we can't plan our next visit and if we will be able to keep in contact it will be using the phone... which costs a lot for international calls.They are being completely unreasonable! He's been doing as good as he can, there's no reason to punish him, and it's not like they're going to kept him locked up studying for a whole week straight during the holidays when he's not even failing anything... why would they do this?It's not helping him, it's only making him depressed.So the only reason I can think of would be that they don't like me and want us to split up.His mum is kind of scary (lol) and she was annoyed at me when I stayed over the first time because I slept in his room on the first few nights (in my defence nobody told me I was meant to be sleeping down stairs), but other than that they've only been nice to me... maybe they think I'm weird because on time I was there I had blue hair... but that's another story.I know it seems ridiculous and I don't know if my parents will believe me at first when I tell them he won't be coming over. I wouldn't have believed it at first if I didn't know he doesn't have that sense of humour. And I asked him about 5 times if there was something he hadn't mentioned like setting something on fire... perhaps a teacher.But apparently, and bizarrely this actually happened.I was playing with the idea of going over to see him and maybe staying at a hostel or friends house(it's not like his parents can keep me out of their country), but I don't see it happening at such short notice and when I have such little money at my disposal.But parents of dearcupid.org; you're perhaps in a similar mindset, can you tell me why they would have done this?(And sorry it's a bit long, it's kinda a long story)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): heyy ,
well , maybe his parents are a bit strict !
maybe in there eyes his grades arnt good enough
i think you are being to parinoid
sorry ...
i have to give my honest oppinion
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