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writes:hiya can anyone offer any advice?im 19yrs old and my bf is 23, iv been with him for 13months, im 5months pregnant and we moved into our own house 2weeks ago, all the stuff in the house (tvs, comp n tables, wardrobe, draws, pots n pans etc) is mine what iv brought up frm my mums, hes only brought some clothes up frm his mums. it doesnt feel like he lives here, he has showers n washes his clothes at his mums and we hav only half the essensials we need, i wudnt mind but the washer isnt plumbed in properly as its leaking and we dont have a washing line for clothes so i cant do any washing myself, he has to pay for everything as the job centre refuse to help me find work (aparently cus he works over 24hours a week) i feel hes really lazy, out of the 6days he works he's probs late for work half the time and i only get a few hours a day with him as he eats and then falls sleep, its not asthou he has a hard job as he cares for his mum n every afternoon he spends tlking to me on msn. iv tried talking to him bout this and all he says is hes tired. what is going on in his mind? does he not want to live with me? it seems like basicly hes jst paying for me to live here and he jst sleeps ere. i have no money so cant sort out house myself and i feel trapped. does anyone no what is going on in his head??
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reader, busy04  +, writes (25 August 2009):
 At least he works...
No one can here can tell you what his problem is, he has to open up to you & tell you himself. But maybe one day you should make a nice candlelit dinner or do something relaxing for him, so he can feel comfortable & then voice your concerns & ask him what's going on. Not in an upset, frustrated or rude way, but a gentle way. Sometimes you have to talk about things that concern you & your partner in a relaxed environment & you get better results.
Good luck!
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