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writes:do all women get paronoid, thats what my boyfriend of nearly 3 years called me last night on the net, which upset me, but hes right, its LDR and we are due to move in together soon cause the distance is getting to us a bit more now, been loyal honest and commited from day one of meeting see each other the best we can when we can, but i asked him a silly question last night wish i hadnt, ive got some illness going on and i might have to go in to hospital to sort it nothing major just something thats causing me discomfort which interferes with having sex, so i asked him the question saying you wont leave me with all this going on will you, he never said anything back, so that was it i was asking him if he was still happy, or he had found someone else, or didnt love me anymore, didnt want me anymore, all the questions i shouldnt of asked he kept saying no, yes, no yes, and then he said i was paronoid, which upset me him saying that, but he was right, i said he could of answred the first question i sent him, he said he never got it never saw it but i was adamant i sent it and i did tell him he did get it, when i had a think the next morning,it clicked when i realised what he was trying to say to me, i didnt want to see it or answer to it cause it was a silly quiestion to ask him, i think thats what he was trying to say to me, HE DIDNT GET IT OR SEE IT AND DIDNT WANT IT so thats why he didnt reply to it, but i took it the wrong way thinking he was not wanting me anymore and would leave me, and thats why i bombarded him with all the quiestions of not wanting me, not happy, are you inlove with someone else, seeing someone else, i feel quite crap this morning and will be my fault if he does decide to leave me with been paronoid has a change of heart about me, but surly if he loves me he wouldnt lets this concern i have break us up he would want to sort it so im not feeling paronoid, any advice would be nice thanks for reading Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 April 2012):
 hang in there.. the time between the move and making the decision to move is the hardest.. we knew by June we would move in together.. he even signed a lease for another year thinking we would wait till August of this year.
By October he was breaking his lease and he moved down in December we just could not wait.
I hope your gap closes soon... just hang in there and stop overthinking it... you are moving in together.. clearly this man loves YOU not your parts...
Apologize for being a jerk... and next time you are worried... send me a PM do not ask him....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2012): THANKS SO VERY CONFUSED FOR YOUR MESSAGE..i dont know what i was thinking when i sent that message to him, it wasnt a text it was a chat messenger on line, so he did get it but he was telling me politely he didnt if you know what i mean, no hes not with me just for sex cause my illness began when i was with him last time, and i was unable to have sex cause of it, and everynight he would cuddle up to me and not complain so no hes not with me for sex, i do feel i am insecure though, especially when im not with him, when i am with him its great, i feel so secure and i do trust him a million percent like he trusts me, but once away from him, i start to think silly things, and my brain goes to overdrive, i know i shouldnt, i just feel at the moment my life a mess cause of this illness, cause i hadnt met him when it came into my system last time, and i had to have a opp my ex had just left me so i was on my own, i know i need to chill, and not say silly questions like that to him, i am moving in with him for god sake thats what i have to keep telling myself but its so near yest so far to being with him, if he was not happy he would not be having me moving in would he, anyway thanks for your advice,
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 April 2012):
I just ended an LDR of a year by moving in together. Shortly after we moved in I had major issues with my back that are permanent and DO affect our sex life (and everything else about our life) and I OFFERED my now fiance a chance to leave the relationship (as he is much younger than I am)
I would never assume that my inability to have sex would make him leave me... is he with me JUST for sex? Is your man with you JUST for sex? Is that what you think?
if you sent him a text he never got, it's not his fault.
You have been together three years you are closing the distance... you need to trust him... why don't you trust him? why are you so insecure? do you not think you deserve this?
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