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writes:I don't know what to do;I've been with this girl for 19 months now. When we were first dating, everything was like a dream. It all went so smoothly. She was nice to me and we never fought.NOW, it seems that all we do is fight. She feels self-conscious every time she eats something. She thinks she's fat and then takes it out on me. It's my fault and she'll recoil when I even try to touch her. I'll tell her she's beautiful and give her compliment after compliment after compliment and it'll make no difference. She'll just get angrier and angrier at me.Wen we're at school, she's a TOTALLY different person. Se'll act like she hates me, she gives me really, really evil death stares from out of nowhere. She acts like she doesn't even want to be with me.I once asked her if she wanted to even be with me. She slapped me across the face and walked off. She always walks off when faced with confrontation. Despite everything I've done for her, she still acts this way toward me. I don't friggen get it.Are all girls like this? Are they all neurotic and evil? Because it seems that the statement "The pretty ones are always insane" is pretty apparent in my life. I've had to turn to smoking and drugs just to relieve the stress of our relationship but I can't seem to leave her. No matter how much logic tells me too, my heart will say otherwise.Is there ANY way I can be with this girl? Because if I can't then i'm either going to wind up a zombie, with no emotion or feeling whatsoever, or I'm going to end up hating women the rest of my life because of this girl.Is she sending me subliminal messages? Anything cryptic I've missed? Please help.
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reader, Jen1689  +, writes (18 December 2010):
 My fiance's ex was the EXACT same way. She was very immature and controlling and started drama out of nowhere. She needed CONSTANT attention, and when she didn't get it, she would pitch fits like a child and begin sobbing and run off just to make him run after her. She did drugs and smoked and drank behind his back (she was only 15/16). He tried to get her clean off of them and tried to help her get back into school (she dropped out) or get a job. She would lie about getting clean and then blame on of his friends for "making" her do it when he found out.They broke up constantly and fought constantly. It was a very toxic relationship. You have to realize that his girl is TOXIC and will only be the end of your sanity and emotional esteem. Please leave her. There ARE girls out there who are pretty AND sane. I promise you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 December 2010):
Just dump her. People like this are expendable from your life. There is no use in being with a girl who treats you like dirt. I'm afraid there are a few Drama Queens out there who do like to treat guys this way. The good news is that the good women outnumber the bad one. So get off the drugs and the smoking, which are worthless and will just make you die earlier, and dump this girl who treats you like a doormat. There are far better girls out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): Are all women neurotic and evil?
Just the ones I have hooked up with.
Look me up and I will buy the first round.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (18 December 2010):
 I'm thinking that she is of the impression that she may be too good for you and you should worship the ground she is walking on. A lot of girls of her age want to be supermodels, not eating etc. She may get really ill and not be able to fight it off because of the lack of nutrients in her diet. Sounds like she is showing off in front of her friends when she treats you badly. Try not to find vices of your own. Your girlfriend is trying to keep up with her peers its all about size zero bodies these days. You may have to look for another down to earth girl who is proud of the way she looks with no hangups and one you could take for a burger sometime . Good Luck
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