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*jroller14
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 months. Him and I have had our fights but have always over come them.Now as i came to school today I am told by several of my friends that he changed his relationship status to single. I am freaking out cuz i am worrried he'll dump me.He still walked me to class and gave me a kiss but is acting a little strange. How do I handle this?He is the sweetest guy I have been with and I dont wanna lose him! It feels as if I am losing he more and moe each day! PLEASE HELP ME!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Sjroller14 +, writes (17 March 2011):
Sjroller14 is verified as being by the original poster of the question You all must think I am crazy for going here first....I'm just easily paranoid and very anti social around my friends and bf...i try to hide my true emotions......
After i have read some of these comments I think I SHOULD talk to him about it....thank you vary much! :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 March 2011):
 I guess he dumped you on FB?
He seems very immature and very juvenile. Why don't you call him on it? Pick up the phone and give him a ring? If he is "single" every time you guys fight.. what's the point?
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reader, audrey millicent  +, writes (17 March 2011):
 the fact that your boyfriend changed his relationship status is nothing to worry about.you are too young to be engaging yourself in this act.you have a long way to go please put aside this game and focus on your studies.This is nothing but trial what he feels for you nothing but lust and infatuation it will take you nowhere.please advice yourself.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (17 March 2011):
 Sweetie, maybe he is planning to break up with you soon maybe he isn't, but either way you mustn't fool yourself into believing that it is going to last forever at your age no matter how bad you want it. It just won't. So please do yourself a favor and forget about it lasting forever until you are at least out of college and/or around 24 years old.
If you want to date you need you understand this going into it, and prepare yourself, first in your head, and second by not letting any boy become your whole world to the exclusion of everything else.
You need a good balance of time between a BF, school, friends, activities, and family. If you don't maintain this balance and spend all your time with a boy then you are going to be lost and won't know what to do with yourself everytime one happens to break up with you. So be smart, never put all your eggs into one basket.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 March 2011):
 It's really rude of him to announce to everyone that he is single, yet not say a word to you. But what do you think, is he the type of guy who would do such a thing?
Or could this be a mistake? Why oh why didn't you ASK HIM? You can't sit and get all paranoid over what could easily be a mistake. Perhaps someone went in and changed his status, you know how people always forget to log out of their accounts. Or turn away for a few minutes. Or maybe he did it by accident and didn't notice.
But why does what others tell you matter MORE to you than what HE tells you? Where is your confidence in him? Have you even seen it for yourself that his status is changed? And why aren't you talking to him about it instead of listening to what others tell you and come online to ask strangers for advice? It's him you need to speak to. Not us.
If you have this little confidence in him and in your relationship, are you even sure this is a good relationship for you? It appears to take so little for the relationship to crumble, that even a small misunderstanding, or joke, can lead to a breakup. That does not sound like a good and strong relationship at all.
For future relationships you should work on being more confident, and trusting your guy above others. Not trust in rumours or gossip, but trust in the person you are in a relationship with. If you find that you are unsure if you can trust them, then they aren't the right person for you! Don't just take any guy who comes along... choose a guy you know is there for you and you can trust in and that you know will not break up with you and announce it to the world before actually talking to YOU about it first. That would be really low, and if he actually did that then good riddance.
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