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writes:Himy wife and I are intrested in going to a swingers party to try other partners. She would like to try a younger guy again. We have discussed it at great length and feel it would be a great turn on for us both to watch each other with someone else that we don't know. We think a swingers party away from where we live will be best so as not to know anyone.We have been married for over 30 years and have a very good sex life. I think we have tried most things.Is there anything we should be aware of or do to be safe. We will insist on condoms etc. If anyone has done this and can remember what their fist time was like please let us know.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (22 July 2009):
First, I'd not venture too far to find a party. First, you'll want to find a location you both like and that you're comfortable in. People tend to travel farther than they should, and there are a few stories of folks bumping into the neighbors, 200 miles from their home. RELAX, as anyone you see that the party is there for the same reason as you.
Before you go -TALK, talk alot, about "what if"... take about jelosy, visit some web sites (the siwngers board is good) and read up on the lifestyle. Communication is key. Also, the first few times, don't have any expecations except to go together and enjoy each other's company - and don't drink too much... light beverages and snacks... avoid too much booze & food.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): I would hire an escort to come to your house first. Take the idea of a threesome or whatever very very slowly. Perhaps just oral or something because you are risking an awful lot in one go - many of the points made by others are very valid. Once you have done the 'swingers' party there will be no erasing it. I may be asking a silly question here but if you have a great sex life why don't you make it even greater just the two of you - there are amazing types of emotional / spiritual sex courses to attend and you can share ideas with other couples without the need to participate - i.e. you maintain intimacy with the woman you love. Is that not why you get married? Call me old fashioned......
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (3 February 2008):
 Hi
Yes, dont do it!
Ooops sorry, just thinking out loud there. I cant help thinking people are playing with fire when they start introducing other people into their sex life. Im not a big believer in it, i think it throws up no end of trouble, but thats just my thoughts on it.
Hopefully you will both be cool with it.
Its dangerous though!
Good luck.
C xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): My main concern would be EMOTIONAL safety first; are you prepared for regrets, jealousy (previously stated by fellow aunt), sadness, etc...And there are still things you can catch from others even when using a condom (herpes, crabs, etc.)
It's always best to sometimes just roleplay, lol.
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reader, Cherriepie +, writes (3 February 2008):
 hi hunny...ive done threesomes and traded partners before, and the best advice i an give you is to put all your jealousies asside...do you think you can do that. when you watch you wife getting it from this other guy, are you going to enjoy watching her or is that green monster going to pop out? thats the biggest thing to get through to you. im sure you both love each other, and this is just a way to expand your sexual exploration, but you better be ready to see your wife get turned on by a guy more than she is by you..that will happen! if your willing to face that and you can still look her in the eye and tell her you love her...then you should be able to have fun with this. i hope your wife is also willing to have you also partner with another gal, or that could be a problem too...the trust has to go both ways, you have to give each other the same freedom.
Another bit of advice is not to make this into a lifestyle that takes over your sex life. doing this once in a blue moon is better than to go at it every week with a new partner (or even the same repeat partner...attachments can happen)
A far as this party scenario goes, dont expect to just meet another guy or couple and do it on the spot in a room set asside. More likely its a meet and greet thing where you make friends and set up situations where you can do things later or even that night in a hotel. If the party your going to is described like an orgy I would be a little concerned with safety and security. better to take your private party to another safe and agreeable place.
So to sum it up..dont get jealous...be fair to each other.. dont let it rule your sex life...dont just fuck like rabbits on the spot... And of course you know you should always use condoms. Have fun and enjoy it!.. ;)
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