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writes:I have been here before for advice and got some really good answers from people, thats why I've come back!Ok, so the thing is I am a 20 year old female. I currently have a bf of 18 months and everything between us is great the only thing is I have never had an orgasm in my life! I think I have had them in my sleep (crazy I know) but my bf can't bring me to orgasm and the thought of doing it myself with a vibrator, just seems to make me cringe. Honestly though I have never even thought about getting myself off and now I don't think about wanting to do it. Can you guys think of anything that I could do? I know I am in a strang situation, but I make my bf orgasm all the time and sometimes I can see it guts him that he can't do it to me! We have tried alsorts to bring me to climax. things like lots of foreplay, touching, oral, kissing etc etc but nothing seems to work!I would really appreciate some tips, advice or anything from anyone who may have been in my situation or even if they know about this sort of stuff!Thank you in advance x
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reader, mcbirdie +, writes (17 November 2006):
 I know you are a bit reticent about the idea of using a vibrator, but in all honesty...there is nothing faster, better, or easier for the first time. And once you have those first couple of orgasms, you'll know better what they actually feel like and what the buildup feels like so that you can do it in other ways.
If you can bear the idea, get a small vibrator and use it only on the outer areas--I think you would be even more unsettled by the idea of penetrative use, and really...that is a bit harder to achieve orgasm by. From there, you can move on to touching yourself and from there, it is just a hop, skip and a jump from showing your partner what you like.
It really is so important to learn on yourself, though. Knowing what you like is the best possible way to get your boyfriend to know what you like. I wish you the best of luck. :)
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