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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was wondering why people who get into relationships usually start doing what their partner does? Like say they were into motor cycles, the girl would go out of her way to buy one so she could share something in common with her partner. Or if she was dating a guy who's group of friends did drugs as well as him, why would she try this?For me, its hard because I find I see people changing to what there partner does. Like my ex girlfriend, she use to be the quite one who was not really out going and didn't drink more then a few glasses and thought drugs where for losers. We dated for 22 months and soon after we broke up she has been dating this guy for 8 months now. During this period of time, when she had troubles she would drink, I told her that I thought it was silly of her to drink her problems away, she didn't listen. Now she admits her problem and tries to stay away from alcohol(for the most part). Then a friend text me (we have mutual friends and my friends know I still talk to her) that she was trying/doing weed. I was shocked and called her and talked to her about it, she admitted it to me, asking to delete the text I got from my friend. I told her how I felt, and that I had noticed a major change in who she is, and that drugs are not good for you. She defended her self saying that she had a few to many, got offer some weed and smoked it and that weed is not as bad as alcohol and told me I can't tell that she can or can't smoke.It bother's me and I feel like telling her I will give up drinking all together if she gives up drinking and smoking. But I feel like it won't do anything, I don't drink that much anyways, just on new years and my birthday. What can I do?
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