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writes:Anyone else feel worthless? Men think that women are objects. That no means yes. That every woman is theirs for the taking because that's what it means to be a man. It's just the way they are... just like it's the way we are. We are worth nothing. Just wait to die women, just open your damn legs and show me your boobs and that's all you mean to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010):
Your self worth should come from YOU really.
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reader, Goodguy84 +, writes (14 July 2010):
Yeah, not all guys are like that, I know I'm not, and I would have to say I'm one of those "Nice Guy syndrome" guys.
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reader, blahblahblahh  +, writes (14 July 2010):
 I can see your point of feeling a bit worthless in this day and age, but I wouldn't generalise all men, yes the good ones are hard to find but don't give up. Women are in the spotlight MUCH more than men, and it's women that feel under pressure to have the perfect body when all we see and hear on tv, mags, mens mags all the rest of it, are plastic women that are glorified to be what's idealy attractive. It's hard to not feel like you are an object, I do understand that, but that's just the way the world is, I think you have to try not to let it get to you and just don't think like that. Of course, men can be very dissrespectful of women without even realising it, but I do believe that there are still some classy respectful men out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): That's a major generalization you just made and forgive me but there's more than a little bitterness and resentment in that attitude.
So I'll generalize in my answer too.
It's catch 22, when you're discussing things like this. You say women are treated as objects, yet there are plenty of nice guys out there that don't get women because they're too nice and they don't treat women like objects, they respect them too much and treat them too well. 'Nice guy' syndrome, you may have heard of it, you may yourself have rejected a 'nice guy' because you felt he was boring or there was no spark.
It's simple really, most women want a man to be dominant, strong and self assured, to take control.
I've dated quite a few women and some of them as a 'nice guy' being nice just doesn't work, there's no excitement, there's no spark. You end up in bed, they say they're too tired, not in the mood so you respect that and keep a respectable distance, then the next day you hear them tell their friends you're gay or that you don't really want them because you gave up too easily. I hear it all the time even now from female friends, they complain when a guy is too forward and complain when he's too respectful.
Women want to be desired, chased and by guys who aren't going to give up at the first hurdle. Unfortunately the nice guys are unlikely to do this, the nice guys that will are very often spoken for and even then it can be difficult because the forceful, arrogant sleazebags have usually beaten them to it. What's worse is that women expect this, they won't make the first move ever if they see a guy they like, they just throw hints and innuendos that most guys just can't read in the hopes that he will make all the moves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Of my ten closest friends, eight are female, I have never slept with any of them or felt any sexual feelings for them whatsoever. I respect them for the people they are not the sex they happen to be.
You've obviously had some bad experience(s) and while undoubtedly there are some total bastards out there who do the decent guys down by their behaviour, there are some nice guys, too. Unfortunately if you tar us all with the same brush, you may miss out on catching a decent fish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Sounds to me like you're meeting the wrong men. Men do generally want to have sex, and that's perfectly normal - they are human! But a lot often want more than that, depends which man.
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