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writes:So, I want to know if this could be real? Ive never believed in that "one person" that was made for us. It just seemed to far-fetched to be realistic. But here goes... I had a great friend in the 9th grade (28 years ago) She and I could talk about anything,and we often did. We sometimes thought the same thing at the same time, and it was funny, but that was it. I had a huge crush on her, but never told her so. She (as it turned out) liked me, but because I never said anything, she assumed I just wanted to remain friends. The last day of school, I walked right up to her and kissed her. She was shocked, and she turned and left. I moved away that summer, and although she was always in the back corner of my mind, I never thought of searching for her. Well, about 3 years ago, I was perusing the internet and on one of those reunion sites, I found her name. I was so elated! I was able to get her address and wrote her a letter. You know, the old-fashioned pen and paper letter with a stamp and everything. I just asked her about her life and what she had been up to for the last 28 years. I wasnt looking to rekindle or anything. Honest. She wrote me back, and was pleasantly surprised to hear from me. We emailed for a bit, then I finally called her. We talked for over 4 hours about everything, and it was so much like it was back then. It was like we just continued where we left off. We live 2500 miles apart, so we didnt even know what the other looked like anymore, but we didnt care. The amazing thing is that we are SO much alike, we share many interests, we often finish each others sentences, I will write her an email, and before I can send it, BLING! An email pops into my inbox from her. This has happened half a dozen times! After about a year, it was obvious there were feelings there again, and while talking on the phone, she said, "You know, I think Im falling for you again." I told her I felt the same, and we havent looked back. Its amazing how close I feel to this woman Ive technically only 'known' for a few years, but feel like Ive known her my whole life. We finally met last summer, and it was so emotional we both cried as we embraced. We are both divorced and in our early 40s now, but I feel like Im 16 again. I guess, my question is: Could this be too good to be true? Is this my soulmate? Has anyone else ever experienced this?
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reader, christopher 22  +, writes (26 December 2010):
yes i do
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reader, penelope_troy  +, writes (17 December 2010):
 I would like to add that Elmer and I finally met (after almost 17 years of not seeing each other) last December 3 and 4. It was the most memorable moment of our lives...he haven't changed at all. The same man i used to know and loved more than 16 years ago. I guess i'm not aware that i fell in love with him even before we met and realized my true feelings when we met. I even kept some clippings of his works while he's still studying in military academy...and to think we don't know each other yet at that time..he doesn't know i exist then but i admire him that much already (later, i realized it was love i felt for him after all)...and i still have the painting he gave me (he asked for my picture and painted it). He's the most special man in my life and i made a promise not to give up on him.
Thank you so much too for sharing your story with us. There are people out there (like me) who can't express what they feel because of some restrictions and fear of those majority who would judge right away. I feel relieved that somehow there are sites like this where we can let go of what we truly feel without fear of rejections.
I know God understands human nature...and He knows human heart....He will definitely understand us. I'll continue to hope and pray that one day we'll be given the chance to share each others lives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow! Thank you so much for sharing with me this piece of your heart. Alot of our situation shares yours. She WAS still married when we started talking, although she was separated and had already filed for divorce.
I would have to advise anyone to go after their dreams. It was worth every minute of uncertainty about whether she would even contact me. I still cannot believe how similar your letter reflects what I was feeling. Thank you again for sharing this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): I share the same feeling with you and i'd like to share the letter my beloved sent to me. We are into a very difficult situation because he's still married but the love that we have for each other is getting stronger each day despite some restrictions. I love him so much and i will never stop hoping and praying that one day we'll be given the chance to shares lives together. My "Elmer" sent this letter to me last October 16, 2010 - almost 17 years after we last met each other. TRUE LOVE AT THE WRONG TIMEMy restlessness that started 16 years ago was over. It is full of regrets to know that the woman of my dreams, whom I thought would never care for me, suffered some heartaches because of my silence. I thought she was angry at me.... i thought she would look down at me.... I thought she would not give me an iota of chance. I was stupid, really stupid…..in a way, I’m angry with myself.The first time I saw her, I told myself, “she is the one…I will build a happy family with her.... I want her to be my wife". But I was overwhelmed by my inferiority complex. I looked up at her and placed her to the highest level, in such a point that I doubted myself of ever reaching her. She was the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen. I’ve never seen her for almost 2 decades but it is still very clear to me how she glowed with her long hair and how her eyes hypnotized me.Her smile captivated my heart, for so long that it burdened my heart until last night. She was a Jewel that stood out in the crowd even in her small stature. I looked at her with awe from the sideline; I was very careful not to be caught and be embarrassed. I wanted to hug her and tell her how much I loved her, but I couldn’t. I thought of her even when I was in combat. Day and night I dreamed of her, crossing the world of fantasy with her; but I insisted to wake myself up and told myself,”Hey it’s impossible”. She is the best friend of my sister and I’m afraid my sister would be angry at me.In some point I hesitated also because of the nature of my job. I don’t want her to cry when I would die in combat. I was full of sighs and regrets, but one thing remains and cannot be denied….I was truly in loved with her.From a casual greeting in Facebook, in October 14, 2010, I learned that she was in Singapore. We exchanged contact numbers and the next day my heart almost jumped out when she called me. I was in cloud nine hearing her beautiful voice for the first time in 16 years. She maintained her very friendly stance and very caring disposition. And from that moment on, I knew that I still loved her.I finally found an opportunity to express myself one night over text messaging session with her, though I was anticipating for the possibility that she would still get angry with me….but I have to do it because, it’s been long overdue. Thanks God she is very calm as I told her how she really meant to me; that I loved her so much.I’m now Free!!! Whew, at last… I was able to express what I should have expressed 16 years ago. It was full of regrets because it’s too late to know that she felt the same way. Unconsciously, I felt tears flowing on my cheek due to the emotion of regrets and of overflowing love. How I wish I was more daring 16 years ago. I promised to love her and respect her and she asked me to love my family. How sweet of her reminding me that. I can’t deny myself that for all those years, I still love her so much, no doubt about that. I wanted to kiss her again, the way I kissed her 16 years ago. I missed her so much. While it is true that we have some limitations; I wish to keep this love forever.Given a choice in my second life, I would not commit the same mistake, of allowing the opportunity of having her as my partner for a lifetimeto slip away.I love you so much min; I really do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): ~DS~
Yes.
God Bless~
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes, we've met a few times, and its amazing. The fact that there was never a physical relationship between us really made us focus on everything else. We are SO comfortable together, and so happy to have found each other again. To me, she looks just as beautiful as she was at 14. She says Im just a taller version of who she remembers. We are now trying to work out the details of one of us moving to the other. We both have kids, so its a real challenge.
Ive never felt like someone was 'my other half' before, but when we're not together, it feels as though part of me is missing. Thank you for the kind words.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): So. I'm usually one of those people who writes hard-hitting, cynical and straight-forward, down-to-earth advice. But. For you, my friend, I offer on your behalf a word of gratitude to the great big unknown universe out there. And, I must admit, I will probably steal away for a few minutes shortly and cry in memory of someone who meant the same to me.
Yes, I do believe one has soulmates, and that it can be spectacular. Have you met each other yet? These relationships are truly unique. I had one myself - we were good friends in high school, met at the age of 14 and always had this chemical connection. Years later we found it again, but alas, in our case, it was not meant to be. I don't think it was fake on his part, and I think it was real, but he is now back in a relationship with his ex, which makes me think that it mostly existed in my mind. But to be honest, even I don't believe that it was fake.
However! Back to you! If this is happening to you, please please SAVOR it - it is truly magical. I believe that most relationships don't have this kind of depth and spiritual quality to it. Nowadays people have sex before they even have coffee, and I love that this wonderful connection is happening to you! Congratulations, be gentle with it, and enjoy what the world is giving you!
God bless!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (13 December 2010):
 Soulmate definition:
One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.
Yeh, that I can believe, but as for the suggestion that there's one and only one person on the planet truly destined to be with another... It's just a totally delusional idea.
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