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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My fiance (age 27) and I (25) have been together for two and a half years. We have a 15 month old son together, and she has a daughter that she feels might have a minor form of autism that lives with the father. We have had our rough times, but after everything, we are still very much in love. We met at a strip club. She was a stripper (I'm sorry, she doesn't like to be called a dancer *shrugs shoulders*) and I was a regular customer that was friends with the staff. She was married at the time (still legally married)and persued the employment at the club to search for a woman to leave her husband for. She said that her husband and her had been falling apart for four years, and the only reason she didn't leave him is because she cannot stand to be alone. She told me that she was intending to find a woman to leave him with, but after hearing other dancers talk about me (dancers that got to know me before she met me) and seeing me for the first time, she fell in love with me. She also told me that she is more attracted to women (because guys cant match up to the beauty of a woman in her eyes! lol) but has found me as the only man she has ever seen to be attractive.Occasionally, (like every 2-6 weeks) she would bring up the subject of having a three way relationship. We would talk about it, then a couple of days later drop the subject. She would tell me "No offense, I love you to death and you do please me more than any man ever has, but there are things that I get from a woman that you cannot master." Being that we live in this modern world, and live a pretty alternative lifestyle, I am open to understand this. I am willing to do this, because I feel that I have enough love in me to utterly satisfy another woman along with my fiance. Recently, we got in touch with an old friend of mine. She is a 20 year old woman with cerebal palsy, that I have talked to for five years and love deeply (on a friendship level). Back in the days when I met this old friend, I was heavily on drugs and going through my immature "horndog" stage. Although I was being that way, I still held enough respect for her to not treat her as meaningless as I did the other druggie women. She has kept in touch with me throughout the years, and told me about the numerous men in her life that have treated her horribly. This made me feel bad (although I was being just as much of a dirtbag as these other guys in my druggie days, I am genuinely a hopelessly romantic gentlemen) because I feel like I should have dated her when I had the chance, so that we could make each other happy and she would never have had to go through those things. I presented the idea of entertaining my fiance's three way relationship with this old friend. My fiance looked her up on facebook to see pictures, talked/texted with her on the phone everyday for the last couple of weeks, and has told me that she feels that she is falling for her. We have presented the idea to my friend (who is bisexal, but with very limited experince) and she is willing to give it a try.Now... after all this being said... I have discussed with my fiance my intentions for handling this relationship. I promised that I will give all my attention, affection, and intimate moments to both of them equally. That way, no one feels left out. I also told her that I will not engage in any sort of gesture with my old friend, until a relationship has been established between her and my friend. If no acceptable relationship can be obtained between them, I promised that I will leave my friend's and my relationship as is. My fiance is accepting and agreeing with this arrangement. The advice I seek is what to avoid, what to keep in mind, and tips on making both of these beautiful women happy. What is recommended to keep this relationship healthy, and a life long commitment for all three of us? Being that I will be committed to both of them and them to each other, what are some tips on providing equal intimate treatment when engaging in seperate sexual encounters?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 November 2012):
 go here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/index.php
lots of positive support for couples seeking a Unicorn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): 1. Communicate2. Listen3. Listen some more4. Have patience5. Make sure no one is stuck with all the mundane tasks of childcare, housekeeping, shopping, cooking6. Keep communicating7. Avoid unhelpful criticism8. Recognize when you are angry, figure out why and then9. Communicate some more10. Listen
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reader, DV1 +, writes (15 November 2012):
 Yes, you can have a polyamorous relationship...
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