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writes:Hello! I had a little problem...which is why I'm writing to you guys (tried to figure it out by myself..turned out that got me even more confused).I've got a pretty good bf of over a year and a half, but I just don't think he's entirely the best bf I could have right now (doesn't really feel right anymore...), but everytime I try to get the courage to break up with him, he makes me feel like I would making a horrible mistake breaking up with him. Recently, I've been crushing on another guy, who I can't really trust because he has a record of cheating on his gf's, but I still really like him, and I've been becoming fairly good friends with him.Here's my questions;-Any tips on how to break up with a guy (this is my first bf here)?-If I do break up with my bf, how long should I wait to try it with another guy?-Should (if I do break up with my bf) I try my crush, even though I'm not sure I can trust him?Please help me out, and thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): Well just sit him down in a quiet place and be gentle and just let him know that the feeling aren't there anymore and you dont think it make sense to foul yourselves any longer. Let him know that you love him but your just not in love with him anymore and ask him if you could still be friends. Now with the other guy you have a crush on why would you want to get in a relationship with a guy who is famous for cheating on his girlfriends? I dont think that's a smart move on your part.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Honestly I think if you don't feel for you boyfriend anymore you should end it as soon as possible. The longer you wait the harder its gonna get. It never to soon to go out with someone after break up if you really fell for this guy I think you should go for it. So he had a history of cheating on girl. He could've changed, you'll never know unless you give him a chance. Also I think you current boyfriend well be thankful.Why? Because I think he wouldnt want you to go out with him if you dont feel the same anymore. He'd understand. And if he truly cared he'd be happy for you. He wouldnt want you to go out with him because you feel bad about it, its pity. So you should let go of your past relationship if you truly feel nothing and start one with this guy if you truly feel something.
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reader, sophief5  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 are you completely sure you wanna break it off?
when i dumped my boyfriend i totally regretted it!
i felt awful for days
but if you are completely sure then let him down gently say that you think you should just ber friends or sumink like that.
then just stay single for a while, have a laugh with your mates and if that guy does ask you out then say yea if you want to, bear in mind that he could cheat on you but it doesn't necesserly mean he will
good luck hunnie
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reader, Yos  +, writes (10 October 2007):
 It sounds like things could easily happen like this:
1 - You'll go a bit far with this new guy
2 - And in a fit of guilt break up with your bf
3 - The new guy will cheat on you after a while
4 - You'll be devastated
5 - Your old boyfriend will have a new girlfriend by then
6 - You'll be left with only guilt, regret and the knowledge that your good boyfriend now has another girl
Leaving a perfectly good boyfriend to chase a known cheat is asking for trouble. Is trouble what you really want?
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (10 October 2007):
Why would you want to trade down to a dog? Wait until a nicer guy comes along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): Just a thought, are you completely over this guy?
Don't do something you surely will regret.
But do whatever you desire to,
sorry I didn't answer your question but I broke up with my boyfriend because of another guy I simply crushed on and regreted it with everything in me... please don't make the same mistake I did but do whatever your heart desires.
Try talking to him about it, see if he has lost interest in you as well.
Maybe he has thought about breaking up with you as well, and he is going through the same problem you are experiencing and does not look to hurt you. But if he isn't, do not expect him to take it easily. But I do not recommend you do it online, that would be cruel. On the phone or in person would be more considerate. Slowly get into the convo of it... bring it up somehow. Make sure to not be in a convo and randomly say... "I'm sorry but I think we have to break up." Chances are he would take it harder. Say it thoughtfully, act natural, but show sympathy.
Good luck!
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