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writes:I started uni in September and met someone I like a lot. We've chatted loads and I plucked up the courage to ask him out but he said no. I was upset but got over the rejection. But our friendship got a little stronger. We had an end if year party and he was there. We all had an amazing night and he and I shared a taxi home. He was really drunk but we held hands in the taxi. Bit I dont think he remembers because he cant remember how he got home. Anyway there was a meeting at uni and he hung around and awkwardly made his way over to me to ask if he'd see me again over summer. Yes I said if he'd like to. So last week we went on what I would call a date. Just us in a cosy pub having dinner together and a few drinks. And we've been texting all day everyday ever since. He said he would like to do it again and we are looking for other places to visit together but we have not set a date to see eachother yet but I think it wont be long. But on our first date we weren't touchy feely (which is fine I'm not like that) but we didn't kiss we didn't even hug. I wanted him to kiss me but we didn't. I think he was going to kiss or hug or both me but he held back a bit or I didn't pick up on it and respond quick enough. He is a shy guy, I like that he hasn't rushed because its respectful. But when I see him next I really want him to kiss me and I don't know whether I should kiss him. I've been out of a relationship for a very long time and I really.like this man. I am pretty certain he likes me like i do him. So anyway how do I get him to kiss me on our second date...
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reader, Broken_Crown +, writes (26 June 2015):
Broken_Crown is verified as being by the original poster of the question Olderthandirt I dont know how you can justify your comments based on the information I gave you. Neither of us are teenagers and I appreciate him not going in for the kill I am not complaining. Not all men are as you describe and just because he isn't the way you have described does not mean there is something wrong with him at all. Perhaps he I inexperienced but then maybe I am also. If I had tonnes of experience I wouldn't be on here asking how I can get hi. To kiss me on our second date ...maybe in your opinion there is something wrong with me also!
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reader, Broken_Crown +, writes (25 June 2015):
Broken_Crown is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Honeypie I understand ?? I am a little confused I must confess. I like him a lot, and you're right he knows I do. I'll wait and see what happens. It took a lot of courage from me to ask him out and I was upset when he said no, I dont want to get this wrong a second time. In my head I have called it dinner with a mate rather than dinner date so that I don't get my hopes up. ??
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (25 June 2015):
 By the second date you should be trying to figure out how to tell him no...There is aparently something not-normal with your "man" Guys are normally very forward...so much so that we get accused of being too agressive and we get pushed away as potential rapists, etc. This guy sounds like a very inexperienced(dare I say, repressed) individual. You may consider leaving well enough alone and just letting the relationship die in a slow agonizing sleep.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 June 2015):
 I'm asking because I didn't want you to get your hopes up that you are now dating.. UNLESS you BOTH agree to BE dating. Know what I mean?
But at any rate, go slow. LET it happen organically. HE knows you are interested.
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reader, Broken_Crown +, writes (25 June 2015):
Broken_Crown is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell HoneyPie i suppose i don't really know. But you dont text your friends into the early hours, or ask over n over when you will see the other again, or text good morning every day or things like that. At the end of the eve he asked me if id had a good eve. Maybe i have it wrong but i hope not. I'll just wait just in case your right... :/
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 June 2015):
Are you actually SURE that the dinner at the pub was a "date"? Or him and you just going out as friends for dinner and drinks? Because I grew up with many male friend and have often gone out for dinner with one of them, or to a cafe to play backgammon and drink beers.
I'm asking because he already turned you down romantically back in the beginning of meeting him, and yet you two remained friends, so before you think of kissing... make sure you are BOTH on the same page.
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