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writes:does anyone ahve any tips for bringing the fun back into a relationship without spending much time on it? my bf and i have both been in really high-stress, intense points in our professional lives for the last couple of years, to the point that we haven't had much of a social live. when we first met, 3 yrs ago, we really hit it off and becane great friends before ever dating. i think there's a lot of potential for us to have fun together, but i think each of us, individually, has just lost all the fun in our own lives, due to the career pressures. fortunately, those are coming to an end in a few months, as we both transition to what should be less intesne settings. but that's still 4-5 months away, and we'll have to be long distance for maybe a year after the transition before we can be back in the same place again.i know that the real answer of what i need to do is to just get back in touch with the things that i used to find enjoyable and try to start having fun anywhere i can. and then, if i can become fun again, maybe he'll be inspired to do the same, and then we can start having more fun together. but realistically, that can't really happen for another 5-6 months. this is the final stretch, and we both just have to finish it. but i'd like to find some small ways of bringing some fun back into the relationship, before we have to be apart for a year.does anyone have any tips for ways we can bring back the fun, keeping in mind that the bulk of our time and energy is going to be tied up in other things for a few more months?
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (22 March 2007):
 I still think one of the best things is going out for a meal. There are always little bistros around that won't break the bank to go to (and it's fun exploring new ones). It gets you both out of your elements, away from the house and the office, and gives you a chance to reconnect. You have to eat dinner anyway - so it's not taking much more time than an extra walk or drive. Just make sure that you are both ACTUALLY present and not thinking about what's next on the check list of things-to-do! Sometimes that's easier said than done! Good Luck with Everything!
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reader, Midge  +, writes (22 March 2007):
 Well my boyfriend and I dont really get to spend much time together and we were at a point two years ago where our careers had somewhat taken over our lives.
He was away for months at a time and when he was home, he was too tired to do anything, and to be honest, our relationship went flat. Although we still loved each other dearly.
It all came to a head and we decided to try and save our relationship. We, like you, didnt have endless funds avaialable to go away on holidays etc, so made the most of what we had.
We took long romantic drives up into the countryside, and had picnics, and tried to revive the spark. Just little things like that, that didnt take much cash, just a little thought. Think about things that you can do like taking long romantic walks on the beach, just spend time together, without the thought the work.
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