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writes:I've tried masturbating but i cant orgasm. i think i might have orgasms when i let water run on my clit in the bath but im not sure. Any suggestions on how to reach and orgasm?
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reader, jonesen12  +, writes (28 May 2008):
def a toy can help.. or some women as well clitoral stimulation isnt the key to an orgasm.. and its only penetration that can do the trick..but your fingers are to small..get a toy that has a curved end and gently start using it..it may feel weird or unusal at first but it will get better
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): I had lots and lots of trouble starting to orgasm.
I too had the same feelings as you and I was not sure if I was orgasming.... I was... but there was A LOT better to come.
A lot of women have trouble orgasming because they feel guilty about it or dirty. Did your mother or father ever tell you it was wrong to touch yourself (even scratch or poke) and tell you to stop?
Try not to pressure yourself into orgasming.I didn't think that I would ever orgasm because I just didn't feel anything, but by boyfriend was patient but deturmind and eventually after a year of trying, we finally got me to climax.
Are you single?
Try masterbating with a shower-head, (just on your clitorus and the surrounding areas). When it begins to feel good start using your fingers. Experimane to see what feels good. When you've found something give it time to build up and see if you can climax. Or you could try using your fingers when you are letting the water run on you in the bath.
Make sure that you are in very comfortable surroundings and that you are not rushed.
You could try a vibrator, but start off with a small one that focuses on you clitorus because this is where you have been getting the most stimulation from so far. Make sure it is well loobed too.
Warm yourself up first. Try to fantasize. Touch and stroke your body where ever it feels nice EXCEPT for your gentitals (if you feel comfortable doing so) until you body is tense and you just can't hold yourself back anymore.
Good Luck.
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reader, Justmealone +, writes (28 May 2008):
Most women do not have orgasms, especially vaginally with penatration.
There are some that do, because they explored on their own with different vibs, bullet's, etc and taught themselves what feels good and works.
My suggestion is to buy a bullet that you can hold in your hand and rub on the outside of the vagina and find a spot that feels good, because that usually works. Then add your lover in, if there is one and let him explore and tell him what you've found that works for you.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii  +, writes (28 May 2008):
 not many women can orgasm but if you think you can just try out different methods...vibrator maybe? there should be some ideas on google if that is any help
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