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writes:When I go out on dates with guys, I usually am pretty fine. But sometimes during that date, my nerves get the best of me. I am always so excited to be spending time with people, and this includes friends too. I get so excited, I make myself nauseous without meaning to. I also get light-headed, turn pale, and start to sweat. My heart beats rapidly and i feel like i'm literally going to pass out at times! Any suggestions for calming the nerves? Do you think part of it could be nervousness, even though I always feel so comfortable around guys? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): Well, good for you! At least you found out. It is always good to see a medico about these things. So, now you can watch your diet and control it. That is great. Now, get out there and have some fun! (smile)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow you guys won't believe this....but it wasn't nerves after all....i found out last week that i have wheat allergies! wheat and wheat gluten is found in all types of food, which was causing the sweating, nausea, and shakes. it's good to know i'm not a psyhco after all, especially since i really don't get nervous that much! lol thanks for all the replies! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice! No I have a very high self esteem and I'm always happy. I am comfotable with being my usual crazy self in front of strangers. It was all excitement, not really nervousness. I have always been that way and I'm not exactly sure why. I get super excited about taking roadtrips so before even getting in the car I'd get this way. Maybe I'm enjoying life a little too much? lol I don't get nervous really because I do a lot of public speaking and performances, I'm a Sunday School teacher, the pianist for my church. I was in marching band all through high school and I was the drum major for 2 years. I was always up on the podium by myself in front of hundreds of people. Sure I started off being a little nervous, but I would usually get an adrenaline rush, which helped me put more energy into my performance. But nothing like this before....but thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): There are all kinds of "anxiety attacks". People have them in different situations. It usually involves a sense of the "unknown". Also a sense of inadequacy. Is your "nervouseness" on dates usually with guys you know well? Or do you have the feeling more when you are with someone you have known only a short time? My advice is to try and remember that you were asked out because someone saw something about you they liked very much. That was probably you being yourself. Just be yourself on the date and stop worrying about how you might be "judged". If it is a worry about some unwanted intimacy, just remember that you are in control of that. You can say 'no' to anything. And most guys respect that. If they don't, you don't need to see them again. It might be a good idea to "double date" more. If you are with a close girl friend, you might be more relaxed. You might then be more comfortable later on a single with the guy you were with. If it is any help, guys can be just as nervous on first dates. Best wishes. Tom
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