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writes:I made a really good friend at university. he was the first person I came out to, but in the last few months he's been off me and hanging around with someone else. I don't think he's become friends with this other person because of me, but because of this other friendship it's been hard to win him back as MY best friend. It's like there's a bit of a rift between us.A while back at a restaurant we were talking about something I think gay related. We were both a bit drunk and he said 'it it because I'm straight?' and then when I asked what he was talking about he said something about 'on the grape vine' and then said nothing more because other people were around.This event keeps going round and round in my head and it's driving me mad. Is this why we're not as friendly as we were before? Beyond that, how can I get him to be my friend again? People always see him and this other person as joined at the hip. This happened with me and another friend in the past who I now rarely see. I want to be seen by others as his best friend who I'm joined at the hip with but he seems to find this other person more interesting. Now I'm just a guy he knows.What do I do?Thanks. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): If he doesn't want to be your best friend, he doesn't want to be your best friend. You can't persuade or force someone into that. You've made it to university, so you should know this by now.
I suggest you get out and find new friends, ones who are willing to hang out with you. He doesn't sound like a very good friend to you, anyway.
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