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writes:im recently married to my wonderful man and im having a great relationship.im a very romantic person and sometimes i feel like im run out of ideas . my husband has a very exhausted job "a journalist and correspondant " and i would like to welcome him home in a very romantic atmosphere so please help with new ideas . another Q please : im so "HOT" all the time ...i mean i never get tired of making love ...i would like to have my man ask me for getting into bed for love making . is there a way to get him initiate and invite me to his arms everytime he sees me :) ..i want him horny all the time :)
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reader, Too Sensitive +, writes (27 January 2009):
Sometimes reverse psychology works well too. Try taking the focus off sex. Maybe his sex drive is not as high as yours, which does happen. Maybe his job is interfering with his sex drive. Maybe he does want sex but being too tired can interfere with that, and sleep or just resting becomes the priority at the end of the day.
So, you could try giving him a backrub or massage without any intent to have sex. People have erotic/errogenous areas of their bodies that are nowhere near the genitals, and stimulation of those areas can indirectly lead to sexual arousal, so you may end up getting what you desire in the end! I'm sure you can find plenty of reading material in the library, at bookstores, and on the net. Anyway, if he falls asleep in the process, let him sleep. Feeling as though he has to have sex with you may be pressure he's feeling that he's put upon himself, that he just doesn't want or need right now. You can always satisfy yourself in private if you absolutely must, though I know you'd rather be with him.
Though this will have connotations of sex in the end, it is romantic, I think. You can try making a trail of white feathers, leading through the house from the front door to the bathroom, where you are waiting in a bubblebath, in a candlelit room, with cocktails or glasses of wine already waiting. Of course, this is difficult to carry out if you don't know when he will arrive home! Invite him into the tub with you (even if it's small, you will both fit if you sit at opposite ends with your feet resting on each other's bodies; or you can sit in between his legs with your back facing him). This should be a relaxing and romantic setting for both of you, and a great precursor to the bedroom.
You could also make a trail of feathers (or flower petals) leading to the bedroom, where you are waiting for him in a most provocative pose, possibly covered in feathers or petals yourself. If you are comfortable touching yourself in front of him, you could always let him find you doing this, as many men are aroused by such a sight (though some are insecure about it or uncomfortable with it).
If you ever have to pick him up from the airport or work, try doing so dressed in nothing but an overcoat! You could also greet him at the door wearing nothing but your bathrobe, or cascade down the stairs, making sure the front is open so he can see you're wearing nothing underneath!
I agree that the e-mail/text during the day will start the wheels turning in his head so that by the time he gets home, he will be worked up for you!
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reader, unique-angel  +, writes (27 January 2009):
the best thing to do is send him a text or email when at work.. just a little teaser talking about what you would like to do and mention some of the things he really likes... it'll get him horny and when he gets through the doo there won't be no time at all for a romantic atmosphere. Eso if u tell him your horny and hot for him. sounds stupid but it always works a treat....good luck xx
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