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writes:Ok, I know I analyze little things too much, but I'm looking for some answers anyway.The ex and I broke up 4 months ago. He was cheating and left me for the other woman. Anyway, after it happened, I blocked him and his new GF on facebook, and deleted every single one of his buddies. Today, I get a request from one of his friends that I didnt really know that well. I haven't accepted or declined. We have no mutual friends with this guy, so I know he had to actually type my name into the search bar and was looking for me specifically and didn't just stumble across me.Anyone have any idea why this guy would add me? I haven't seen or heard from him in a little over 4 months. Like I said, I didnt know him that well and we only hung out a couple or times.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (27 January 2011):
 Sorry - no idea. He sounds a bit odd if he would choose to add you on facebook - he will obviously know you and your ex broke up so there is no real reason to add you.
I know of people that hate being deleted off someone's friend list, they monitor their own friend list and as soon as they see their number go down they find out who it is that deleted them, and often they will go and search for that person again to re-add them. One girl I didnt know particularly well (hence why I deleted her) tried to re-add me over 7 times, she was just so obsessed with having a big friends list she would take it to heart that someone deleted her! This could be one possiblity?
Or alternatively he may just be nosey and wants to see what you are doing/what you look like etc. Some people are just naturally nosey and will do a bit of facebook stalking on anyone that they know or used to know - this is the most likely option.
The very far out options (but please dont take these to heart as these are incredibly unlikely) are he could have been asked by your ex to add you so he can see what you are up to (very very unlikely) or this guy might have always had feelings for you and wants to add you again now you are single (again, very very unlikely as hardly anyone would be daft enough to date their friend's ex).
You can pretty much conclude from all of these possibilities that really, the guy is a weirdo and best not to worry about it and reject the friend request! Quite simply - your ex has moved on, and you are trying to do the same, dont waste time over-analysing things on Facebook of all places, you have better things to do with your life. Whatever his reason, it is silly and petty and you should not be wasting time thinking about it.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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