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*heBends
writes:So, my LDR boyfriend of 3 years left me around 3 weeks ago.We had a fight and he never came back. I thought everything was okay with us, I've went over chat logs to try and find out where things went wrong and he seemed really happy, even the day of the fight before it happened. However with the space I tried to give him, he decided that he wanted to make it permanent. After around 10 days I asked him if he was coming back sometime, if he wasn't don't say anything. He hasn't said anything to me since that fight. Literally nothing. He talked to a friend and said he went on a 5 day holiday with a friend and got a new perspective on things, he didn't want to be with me.It was a real shock but it does not entirely surprise me. This behaviour is not completely rare with him but it still hurts. I think he got bored of the routine, wanted to be free. I on the other hand, want to find love again and I don't want to ruin things with the next guy due to all this. I want to trust and love without being scared.Any good, productive advice about moving on would be really appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, TheBends +, writes (23 February 2011):
TheBends is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ bernard and @IowaBelle, I think the worst thing is that he's moving in April and will be that local guy. I don't regret any of it, any of that time at all really. But I will be looking for someone closer to home for the future, I don't want him back. I agree though, time is a good but very slow healer.
@ TeaLady, thanks. I will love myself. Sometimes I think I get too caught up in everything that has to get done, I don't give myself enough treat time. It didn't seem worth it but now it does :D.
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reader, TeaLady  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 Spend some time with yourself...and don't look back for answers. Give yourself lots of love.
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