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36-40,
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writes:My boyfriend and I moved in together about six months ago. I got accepted to Teacher's College in a different city and asked him if he wanted to come with me. His job in our original city is very flexible and his boos told him he can come back to when everything is done. So we moved over and now things have gone sour. I feel that he is not affectionate at all. He's physically with me in the apartment and he's not really there. He doesn't say "I love you" anymore and when I headed back to our original city two days before he went and I said i would miss him, all he said in return was "ok". I've tried my best to get him involved in any event that the faculty of Ed had. All my classmates know him and he always accompanies me to these events. The other day his work place had a Christmas/New Years party.. and he mentioned it to me, but didn't invite me until the day before. I got caught up in other things and didn't end up going. But he did. He came home drunk. I would never do that to him.I just feel like he's drifting away. I confronted him about it and he says that it has nothing to do with us. I don't know what to do. I feel the neglect so much because I can compare it to how he was with me before we moved in together. I know the new year just started...but honestly.. i've been crying for the past first days. To top it all off, I'm getting very distracted from my goals. Maybe i just want to vent, but if anyone can tell me that i'm not going crazy and that maybe these are red flags.. i would just like to know.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (4 January 2011):
You have to talk to him and try to sort it out. Ask him why he is being distant. You said he told you it was nothing to do with the relationship, try and find out what it is then.
It could be something going on with his family or it could be the move isn't working out for him. It's really important that he opens up to you. If he doesn't you're going to struggle.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 Am afraid you just need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel and ask him straight out what is on his mind and why he is being so distant. My guess would be that he is unhappy with his location and that he is taking things out on you. He has the answers so if you really want to know what is wrong you need to sit down with him and ask him what his problem is. Tell him its a new year and a new start for you and that you need to know were you stand. Goodluck.
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