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writes:HI!I was just wondering what your guys' thoughts are about interracial dating. I'm black, and yes I AM attracted to guys within my race, but I'm more into white guys. Sometimes I find it hard, because I don't really know what a guy is thinking or if they would ever be attracted to me especially since I'm black. Of course it seems easier to date within your race, but with me obviously it's different...Sometimes I lose confidence and and ask myself why I even bother. So I was just wondering what people intake is on the interracial thing and if they've ever been through anything.Hope that made sense :]
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Hello my sweet,
I am the product of interracial marriage - I'm half black, half white, my parents are/have been crazy in love for 25 years. It can work, it will work, provided you're not dating jerks who are shallow enough to be preoccupied with what's on the outside rather than the inside.
The color of your skin isn't who you are. You date whoever the hell you want to, because when you'll find love, you'll find it with someone you truly care about and connect with. The color of his skin will have nothing to do with that.
Any guy who's going to not date you because you're black is a fool. Yeah, there's some culture differences, but they're about as different as white people from NYC and white people from the South. I'm sick of the craziness, people thinking that skin color makes us all so drastically different. (Sorry, I can get a little insane about this stuff. I'll stop.)
In conclusion: don't let societal crap bog you down with these stupid dating/racial "rules". You just be who YOU are and you'll find someone who loves you for THAT.
Interracial dating ROCKS! Plus, it produces pretty cool offspring, if I do say so myself. haha!
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Well, you can also add me to the previous list of interracial dating fans!
I certainly have a chequered history regarding this - my ex-wife being Italian and previous, subsequent girlfriends being Namibian(black), Thai, Filipina, 3 Chinese(oriental), my current gf being Chinese. Personally, I've never encountered any hostility or hatred about this(plenty of envy though!)
I love the cultural differences and I am fascinated by them and find this aspect an attraction on both sides. You may possibly find opposition from family and friends - this is due to ignorance and old fashioned notions.
So, if you fancy someone and it works, go with the flow - don't be intimidated by what others think.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Be proud of what you are.
Be proud of your race, your nationality, your culture, your creed and yourself, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Then go for what attracts you most, whether he's black, white or all the colours of the rainbow. Never, never go for what is simply easiest if that's not what you want most.
If you don't have pride in yourself and what you are, then you will never properly appreciate others and what they are.
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reader, justagirl85  +, writes (30 June 2008):
I don't believe it should be a problem! If you like a white guy while being black it is perfectly fine as long as you really like him. I am asian and my boyfriend used to be spanish, we had problems with communicating in a foreign language in the beginning, but in the end it was a lot of fun and there was attraction between us despite language barriers, different cultures, and ethnicity. The world is not longer divided between white and black or yellow. We are all one race, human beings. So just don't bother about it and cheer up! Be yourself, moreover there are many white guys who are just crazy about black girls!!! I know it from some of my male friends;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): i know how you feel i am white and i am really attracted to black guys but i feel like they wouldnt think of me romantically, or in that way. i think if its meant to be, it will happen. sorry i dont really have any really good advice but yeah, i know how you feel.
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reader, No1AgonyAunt +, writes (30 June 2008):
 I dont think anything should be judged by how you look and i think nomatter what colour you are and nomatter which colour your attracted too, it doesnt matter.We are all one race and we shouldent think about colours or religions or anything like this. I have dated people of differant colours and i see no differance in the relationship and do not think it is easier to date people of your own race.If you like someone nothing should matter and neithershould any negative thoughts =]Dont loose confidence because people will love you for who you are =] I dont think race should be involved in relationships.Just saying my thoughs =] x
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