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writes:So I have an issue with three guys liking me and I don't know exactly what to do. One guy is my ex whom I met in elementary school and we went out a little and then didn't really talk in middle school and then we started hanging out again in high school as friends. One of them is a friend from class and he has asked me out several times once before he knew I had a boy friend and then we hung out and apparently that was a date, and then 5 minutes after I told him I had broken up with my current boyfriend(or recent ex. I don't know). Then there is my current/recent ex/boyfriend? I've been so confused about everything lately. I recently went to hang out with my ex from elementary school and when we were in the parking lot he said he wanted to kiss me so I said "Ummm... Okay?..." because I didn't know how to respond, and then he did kiss me. I told my friend from class about it because I was upset about it and he wanted to know if my ex knew I didn't want to get together again. Honestly I like all three of them. My ex has known me the longest.Recent ex I have dated for over a year, and friend from class I have had a crush on since the beginning of the school year as well. Every time I tell them that I just want to be friends we are for a bit and then it gets back to they want to be more than friends. Any clue as to what to do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 February 2016):
 Usually an ex is an ex for a reason? Think about why you broke up and have a think if you want to go back there again. As for the guy who is your friend, well if you where to get together and then break up it would be hard to remain friends again. Usually it makes sense to put some distance between you and someone once you break up so that you can both move on. So I would cut the exs out of my life. It is okay to be single for a while until you figure out what it is you want.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 February 2016):
 Seems to me that not a single of these guys are LISTENING or RESPECTING what you say.
If you have said "I only want to be friends" then either they back off and BE your friend or they walk away.
Seems like they seem to think that if they just push enough you will do what they want.
Why did you break up with your ex? If there is a GOOD reason, then cut the contact so you can get over him. You obviously still have feelings for him. It's OK to miss someone, to care for someone and NOT want to date them.
As for the guy in your class. Well... I'd skip him entirely. He still tried to get with you when HE knew you had a GF. Not kosher in my book.
Take some time to deal with the break up. YOU really (and I'm serious here) DO NOT need to replace an ex as fast as you can.
Relax, think. Figure out what you want.
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