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writes:well. me and my boyfriend want to try anal sex, and i dont really know much about it, and i have read about it on this website, and it says use lots of lube. does that mean acual lube or could it be lotion or baby oil or things like that?and what if we dont use a comdon? i mean is it better with or without, just things like that.anything info would greatly help. ^-^
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reader, ElleForLove  +, writes (5 May 2009):
Hi,
It is nerve racking doing it for the first time, but if you and your boyfriend both want to do it, then your half way there already! No pressure from anyone!
Use lube and a condom (bums are full of bacteria, don't forget) and like the other guys have all said, take it slowly. It can really hurt if forced or rushed and if you don't relax your bum muscles will tense up and make it painful. Relax, relax, relax! Perhaps do it after a night out (not too heavy, but a few drinks to get yo uin the mood).
Get your fella to talk dirty in your ear as he enters you, it'll take you mind off him going in adn that should help. Once he's in you'll be fine.
Oh and last tips. DOn't let your bloke pull out too quickly either. Get him to come out of you slowly cos bum tissue is delicate!
Hope that helps xx
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reader, CupidLover  +, writes (5 May 2009):
 You need to relax before he penetrates you anally...lube will def work,but maybe let him showly finger you 1st before he puts himself inside you..that way you've losened up..if you feel uncomfortable with how it feels dont feel hesitante to tell him to stop..goodluck!
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reader, btalep +, writes (5 May 2009):
 I'm not an expert but I suggest a lube. Lotions and baby oil are not meant for that part of the body and really do you want that stuff up your you know what. Secondly a condom is always better. Just because of the area it could have lots of bacteria and make sure he changes the condom before you guys begin vaginal sex.
I say try it. Make sure your partner goes slow and is willing to stop if its starts feeling painful or uncomfortable. I'm not a fan but I'm glad I tried it.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): hello,
I dont have much advice but lube can be anything that makes it easier to insert without irritating you or your partner.
A good lube to use would be vaseline because not only does it lubricate the area it also slightly numbs the pain.
I hope this helped xx
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