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writes:I'm currently seeing an Indian guy. Is there any advice. When it comes to Indian guys? Is their family strict about only dating Indians because I'm not Indian I just don't want to get my hopes up if this doesn't work out. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2015): These things can end happily. My friend recently married an Indian man, his family flew over for the wedding and adore her despite the fact that she's pale, blonde and about as untraditional as you can get. She and her husband are now blissfully happy. Then again ge is a bit older, late twenties, so he'd already worked all if the wildness out of his system. Take it slow and ask him lots about his home abd family to see if you can get a feel for them.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 July 2015):
 I agree with WiseOwlE
And I say this with NO OFFENSE towards any nationality or culture.
My friend's daughter (25) met a "nice" guy from India who was studying in the US. They dated a while (about a year) when all of a sudden he cut the contact for 3 months. Turned out, that his parents had arranged a marriage, so he went home to India to get married and then came back to finish his degree. After he had gotten married he contacted her again, wanting to pick up where they left off. Basically have her as a "mistress"/something on the side. She refused and blocked him.
IF he is in the US to study, he WILL eventually go back to India. You may not be what the family want for their son, and HE may not choose you over what his family wants.
If he hides you from his family, or his family from you. Well then you know, you are not someone he sees himself with long term.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2015): By the way, if you're talking about an exchange student; or a guy here on student visa, it is unlikely you will meet his parents. He will date anyone he pleases; because they will not know the difference. Just don't allow yourself to get emotionally attached to a guy who would be ashamed to introduce you to his parents. You deserve to be treated far better than that. With no disrespect to any culture on this planet; on this soil, he adapts to your American culture, values, and traditions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2015): I advise that you conduct yourself with class, and treat all guys like decent gentlemen. Don't worry about their customs or traditions; unless they suggest that you observe certain customs when you enter the home of their parents.
Don't assume because a guy is of Indian heritage, that he comes from an old traditional background. Most in your age-group were born right here in the States. Their parents are most likely very westernized; and only hope you are a nice girl, for their son's sake.
Unless their son plans to marry you, what they think of you really doesn't matter. Just be polite and respectful as you would be in anyone's home. If a guy was raised within a very strict, religious, and/or traditional household; be that the case, it is unlikely you would have been asked out. Nor would it be likely that things would go as far as you being introduced to his parents to begin with. He'd avoid you meeting them. You shouldn't date anyone who wouldn't want you to meet his parents.
If a guy doesn't want to introduce you to his family, dump him. I don't care where he comes from, or what his ethnic origin is.
Always be yourself, and expect all men to treat you with respect; regardless of their culture or race. Decency is universal. What your parents think of him is just as important.
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