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writes:my mates fella realy gets up my nose. It sounds realy silly but her fella talks to her like poo if she forgets the potatoes or forgets his mouth wash when shes been shopping. he once never spoke to her for four weeks because she forgot the potatoes for his tea. he does it all the time about anything. any advice I can give my mate other than telling my mate to tell him to get lost. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): I am not sure you have been given much help so far. From what you describe your friend may be on the receiving end of verbal or emotional abuse. Rather than go in heavy handed it might be worth being light hearted and say "blimey I'm glad I'm not the one doing the shopping in your house" and laugh about it. By gently intimating that you would not put up with that your friend may or may not consider the things you have raised in your post and reflect on it - she may then bring the subject up herself at a later stage once she has thought about it. One thing I would say is that had my friends pointed things out to me earlier in my married life I would not have inadvertently tolerated 15 years of emotional abuse until it crept up on me and left me with terrible low self esteem. Best thing you can do is be a great friend, monitor the situation and take things gently - after all I get the feeling you care for your mate and are simply looking out for her.
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (1 April 2009):
sorry my dear but unfortunately it is not of your business,you never know if she was happy with that or not,usually when a woman loves man even if that man was trash she will back off any one who wants to help her,and she would blame who wanted to help her first if her man left her ...even if he was the worst man on earth,if you saw physical violence call the police,and try to avoid interacting with other couples life.because you well simply find your self blamed instead of appreciated
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 Has she asked for your advice?
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