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writes:So first of all I should begin by saying that I suffer from mild depression and moderate-extreme anxiety depending on how I'm feeling. A couple of months ago I failed my driving test. I'm a very competent driver but the moment the driving proctor entered the car I was suddenly filled with anxiety. It was like someone else was behind the wheel! Needless to say, I didn't do very well and ended up failing. It didn't help that the proctor was incredibly intimidating and kept yelling at me every time I made a mistake. I've let several months go by and I know it's time to retake the test. I'm 20 years old, I should get my license (I did grow up in a city where no one drives which is my excuse). The fact that I have to retake my test has been looming over me like a dark cloud and every time I think about it I get incredibly anxious. I know it's not a big deal but my anxiety sometimes blows things out of proportion. I feel traumatized from my first experience. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!Also fyi, I am medicated for my depression and anxiety.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2014): I failed 4 times lol tbh I didn't much care, sure my parents were pissed because of the time and money spent, but I actually learned how to drive without an instructor later and in a manuak car, after that every thing was easier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2014): I got my Drivers License at 21 and I failed the first test because the instructor didn't give proper instructions . When it was time to parallel park the instructor said to PULL into the parking space so I did. Only after I realized she meant to show her how to BACK into parallel position. Mistakes happen and being nervous is natural. Just go over whatever marks you got and you will do fine.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 May 2014):
 I flunked the EYE test. I had no clue my vision was so bad. I had to get a note from the eye doctor saying I had enough vision to drive. I do.
i then went and flunked the driving test.
so it was my third strike or i was out. I managed to pass but it still was a long while before i felt good about driving.
My son did not get his license till he was 19.... so it's not that big a deal.
I think you need to tell the proctor when they get in the car that you are very nervous... that often helps me to admit to the supervisor what's bugging me.
then you do the very best you can and don't fret.
sometimes we need to try a bit harder than before and some folks have to do it more often than others.
YOU are not alone with this.
good luck and let us know how it goes.
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reader, MSA +, writes (14 May 2014):
 Is there only one facility that you can go to, to take your driving test? Sometimes it might be helpful to try taking the test at another facility... maybe the driving proctor will look nicer? Or the road will be easier to drive! Give that a try... or like what my peers often tell me when I'm afraid of public speaking.. imagine your driving proctor is in his/her underwear while testing you.. or he/she has something sticking out his/her nose ;-) Good Luck!
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (14 May 2014):
 Please don't panic about your driving test! I can totally sympathise as I took my driving test 6 times. Yes. SIX!
It wasn't because I couldn't drive, because I was more than capable. I could drive perfectly well until the day of the test and then I would just turn to a gibbering wreck.
I felt so intimidated by the Examiner, and also by other people on the road. It always felt like people were deliberately trying to cause me stress on the road just because I was a learner.
As soon as I passed and got rid of the 'L' plates I was a calm driver. No one was staring at me, or getting impatient and I was able to just blend into the crowd.
Getting your licence is a massive freedom - you can go where you want, when you want without having to rely on others. That is what you need to focus on. This is an achievement for YOU.
Your medication is probably having some effects, and some medication can actually affect your driving ability. I know certain tablets should not be taken if you are going to drive or operate "heavy machinery", so that is something you might want to check.
From my own experience, I actually feel I benefitted from taking my test so many times, because it made me a better driver. Those people who passed first time did not gain the experience I did, and were probably not as emotionally ready to become drivers as I was when I did pass. I believe that I was more mature in my driving ability.
Chin up, and have faith in yourself. Things have a great way of happening when they are MEANT to, not necessarily when you want them to. :)
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