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writes:I will be heading back to meet my boyfriend after 3 months of long-distance separation. I am feeling with anxiety as to what should i do? How can I face him? I suddenly feel so far away from him... How can i control my fear? I heard that when many couples get back after a long-d will break up...Just to add: My boyfriend and I are going through a 3 months long-distance relationship. And next week we will be meeting one another in another country and that will mark the end of our long-distance relationship and everything will get back to normal when I am back in my country.But the problem is that he hardly initiates conversation with me these few days... Does that goes to show that he is not very excited to have me back? I feel so sad sometimes that I have to always be the one initiating the conversation. Just wondering if a guy stops to contact a girl and having the gf to do the reverse for him, does that mean that he is no longer interested in her? Does it means that my boyfriend no longer have that longing to meet me? =( I am so afraid so I will be meeting him next week. I was thinking of stop contacting him these few days and see what happen....What do you guys suggests for me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys,
Really thanks for all the advices. My boyfriend and I are in a very very honey moon mood now haha. Guess distance has indeed draws us nearer together and both of us really treasure the time together now.
Long distance do work, it just depends on the level of trust and commitment level =)
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reader, VenaCava  +, writes (31 July 2010):
Hi sista,
I was in a Long Distance Relationship for 10 months with my husband. So I definitely know what you're talking about.
Those strange-almost compulsive feeling to check your cell phone every single minute, the giddy feeling of checking email box after school/work, and suddenly you and your postman get to know each other's name because you flew like a bird whenever he delivers your BF letter.
Is your boyfriend studying/working in that other country? If yes, it was probably he’s been very busy lately.
Maybe he’s preparing a surprise for you?
Maybe he works overtime in order to get everything done before you arrive?
Can it be the sign that he trusts you completely, that he feels he doesn’t need to know your every move?
Trust is a very important element in LDR. Trust him like he trusts you.
Be happy about your reunion; prepare something funny and creative for him. You shouldn’t be anxious right now sis, you should be overwhelmed by joy.
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reader, agonyaunt778  +, writes (31 July 2010):
Tell him how you feel and how you are vulnerable, but in a very professional way. Tell him also an action-item of what he can do to alleviate those fears, or ask him to suggest something he can do to show affection for you (ie. call you even just to talk for 5 minutes, or sing a song to you, something simple.)
It's important to give a tangible action-item because otherwise you might never feel satisfied with what he does to show affection, and in the reverse he might feel as if you're nagging and complaining.
I've been in a long-distance and communication is hard... I think you constantly have to be creative for each other to keep up the interest and excitement.
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