Anxiety is ruining my relationship. Please help me.

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello I would like an outside point of view for my problem, I live in USA, I am inmigrant, from third world country, I came to this country after has suffer a lot of missery in my country of origin, my first years here were awfull because I didn't have money, and I wanted to have a career, well i got my bachelor degree, and a master degree also, which lead me to get a very very good job, which I am very happy with, my problem is that since very early age I have suffer from anxiety, I am always scare to loose my job, even when I don't have reason to, I am very well respected and liked in my job, I worked always very long hours because I am affraid that if I don't do that I will loose my job, even my boss have told me that I can't keep going like that, that i am going to get sick, on top of that, I have the most wonderfull boyfriend, he is everything for me, we love each other, but again I am always thinking that he may be cheating on me, that he doesn't love me, all the bad things that a woman can think, I found myself being unreasonable with him, and he doesn't deserve it, I don't know what to do, because he always show me that he loves me, at the begining of our relationship we had some problems, we were exclusive since the begining, but I had problems with his lack of affection( he is very shy), he has improve a lot, but my anxiety doesn't let me forgive him for the past, I have seen a lot of therapist, I do voluntary work with the red cross, on top of my career as engineer, I feel all the time overwhelmed, I don't want to live in the missery again or loose my boyfriend

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