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writes:Hey everyone. I figure I might as well share one of the many heaps of cheating stories out there. I've been going with this girl for 3 months. We seem to click and really like each other. She stays a few hours away from me and she comes to visit me every weekend with her sister, who's dating a guy who stays in my city. Long story short.. The guy has a son. One night, my girlfriend told me she smoked with him. Later on in the night when everyone was sleep, she sends a text message to her sisters phone *she had it with her* and she said that he told her to *come here*. She came to him. According to her, when she got in his room, he began to discuss his past relationships with her ( all i know). She told me that she drunk some liquor because she wanted to *taste* it, and when I asked her how much she drank, she said * half the bottle*. So, the guys in there, kissing on her, then he began to take off her cloths. She said that she told him to *stop* a few times, but apparently it didn't work. The guy then laid her on the bed, put a condom on, and he F*cked her for a little while. She told me that she told him to stop, and he did, and she went back in the room. And later on the guy kept texting her to come back in, but she texted back saying *no*. Later on that day, she told his father, who in turn, told her sister. I am very heart broken by this because I stressed the very importance of trust in a relationship to her, and one day when she came over my house she sat on my lap, looked me in the eyes, and told me that I have to trust her. In every single one of my relationships, I have always gotten cheated on, and it's not fair. She and her sisters have told me that she tries to avoid him every time now.When She told me about it, she told me in the form of a poem,a week later it happened, and I couldn't even allow her to finish it because it was so cold. the title of her poem was * my biggest mistake*. This has happened recently, and I still think about the guy putting his D*ck in her every time I go to sleep. When I was on the phone with her, she cried a bunch when I told her that we should just be friends from now on, and that I should keep to myself. I told her I couldn't love her anymore, and her reaction was a complete outburst of tears. She apologized numerous times and said that she was under the influence but to me, that is no excuse. She begged me not to leave her, and I've never given any girl a second chance. I decided to give her a second chance anyway, because she was honest with me, unlike the other 7 girls who cheated on me and didn't tell me a thing. The foundation of our relationship has been broken, and I am afraid that I will not be able to trust her again. I feel as if I have to place wiretaps and surveillance in the household she will be moving in. She told me that she wont do it again, but I just don't believe it, especially knowing that they ( her and her two sisters) will be moving into that household soon. That's what really scares me, because the guy will be there, and I'm sure the guy will try to F*ck her again. I feel for her because it seems as if she has self control issues, and the inability to resist temptation. I kind of have a weak spot for people, which is one of the reasons why I decided to take her back. There was no girl in my past that cried as much as she did when I told her I wanted to permanently distance myself from her. I really like this girl and she seems to be deeply in love with me, and we click a lot. I am just not sure if I will be able to trust her again, which is a big problem. because trust is the foundation of a relationship, in my opinion. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? if so, how did you cope with it?Thanks for your responses.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (1 December 2010):
You've been cheated on by 8 girls? I think you need to think about that for a moment. That's not bad luck - that's you making seriously bad choices of who you want to be your girlfriend.
I really feel for you that you are heart broken over this. I can imagine that it must be terrible, but there are two things that I get from what you said:
Your girlfriend was either raped (or at least taken advantage of) whilst under the influence of alcohol. She was either in the wrong place, at the wrong time, and this was a dreadful one off, or she lacks enough confidence in herself to make sensible decisions. If it is the later then what is to stop it from happening again? She needs to take responsibilty for herself and not put herself in situations where she can't defend herself from dodgy people.
I don't know your full situation but it seems to me you should put this relationship down to experience and move on. I know you want to forgive her and move on.. but whether you can, and whether she is not going to do it again is another matter.
You really don't need this kind of stress in your life so checkin with yourself and be honest.. is all the heartache and pain worth it, especially for just a 3 month relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): My boyfriend cheated on me 4 times, he was not under the influence had had a whole bunch of other reasons. I forgiven him, it was the hardest thing ever! Sometimes u can see when a person really means it and they are deeply sorry and are hurting i believe they get a second chance! i was cheated on a few times and other guys just acted all cool and blamed it on me. U can usually see whos sorry and who isnt! I wish u guys all the best!!
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