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anonymous
writes:i have just had anal sex for the first timeme and my boyfriend used lubricantit did hurt, however i let him continiue for about 10 -20 minutes untill he had ejaculated.i have had an embarasseing time when i went to the toilet after lbut now i feel okim just worried because i have been reading wether it is safe or not and im not quite sureme and my partner do not have any stds as we are both eachothers first lovers i was hoping someone could tell me the truth and hopefully reasure me i will be fineme and my boyfriend wont be doing it again .
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): Ok, from someone's who been around for a few years... Anal sex is a very personal thing, some people LOVE it, others HATE it, and alot of folks are somewhere in the middle. It takes alot of trust to be able to relax enough to allow yourself to enjoy it. Get relaxed, a hot bath, or spa may be a good start, one glass of wine (not a bottle!), let him finger or lick you to your firt orgasam, and that will help you relax alot! use plenty of good lube, and I mean PLENTY, the old saying is "too much is nearly enough"... We use KY from the grocery store, easy and affordable, toss it in the cart with the grocerys and check out... make sure he's rock hard and make sure your calling the shots. he's GOT TO UNDERSTAND that this works at your speed. Make him sit still and slid down on him, hold the positon till you loosen up and then let him enter you some more. When he's all the way in, and you relax, let him start stroking.
If you're in the right position, he should be hitting your G spot, and hopefully your cum like you've NEVER cum before. Some women actually pass out - my GF has the most incredible screaming orgasams... 3X the intensity as a viginal orgasm... it's wild! No mess afterwards, ever...
Go slow, stop if you feel pain, lots and lots of lube! Enjoy...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Hey your going to be ok, its going to feel a little weird when you use the bathroom. also check out this cite, f you ned a little more incite.. http://www.talksexwithsue.com/analsex.html
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reader, r0ckah0l1c  +, writes (11 July 2009):
Wow, I would not keep going after you feel pain, that means damage is being done. Try purchasing a syringe to fill with lubricant and inject it into your anal cavity rather than just using it on the opening and your partners genitals. This allows more comfort for stretching. The first few times, take it slow. I personally think that silicone based lubricants feel the best. Also, always use so much lubricant that it feels wasteful lol because that is the only way to know it is enough. Also start first with anal play through fingering or toys to relax. A spooning position while laying on the bed works well for those new to anal. I hope I provided enough information!
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